Hi,

Tonight, Nov. 16th, I'm going to rewrite my profile based upon the recent experiences I have had on POF and dating. I am also going to explain why I am writing my profile in such a fashion.

I believe that we, on this site, are looking to connect with someone on some level (hopefully many) in a variety of fashions and share an interest or multiple interests.

I believe that communication and honesty are essential relationship criteria - whether that be with one's children, employer, friends and/or family.

So, if you write something in your profile which is a flat out untruth and we meet and I discover the contradiction, it's likely we will not connect. For example, if you have 1 child, you have one (whether minor or adult); if you have 4 children and 3 are adult and one is at home... you still have 4 children... Get where I am coming from? I do not expect my adult children to be out of my life just because the youngest is soon to be 18 and the other will soon be 21. They will always be a part of my life.

I am anything but cheap. If you invite me out and ask me where I'd like to go, I expect that you will respect my answer and that you will treat. Likewise, if I ask you out and ask you what your preference is, I will respect your answer and pay.

If you post a picture(s) on your profile, I expect that they are going to be relatively recent and/or you identify the timeframe with a description. I have and will do the same. There's nothing like someone setting an expectation for someone only to find out the person who arrives does not resemble the person in the profile photos.

I have a good life. I want to share my life. Communication is essential to a relationship. I am not a mind reader nor do I want to be. I am extremely intuitive. If you had a bad day and we are out on a date, I expect that you will tell me what's going on. If you don't, I might perceive you are bored, boring, uninterested or uninteresting.

If we have met a few times and it comes to the point of wanting to share / ask where this might be going, if I express I feel this or that, I expect that you will have the respect and courtesy to return my email or call. If you delete your profile, send an angry response, are sarcastic, you may likely confirm what I have pondered about as to who you are....

I have met some nice men on this site. We didn't connect as in a relationship, but are friends. I have met some very immature men, who have no manners, no respect or interest in anyone other than themselves and their opinion, interests, wants.

If you fall into the latter category, don't waste your time writing me or asking me to meet.

If you are a mature, responsible, polite man, who has some polish and manners, feel free to drop me a line if you are interested. Sorry if I have vented above, I just can't believe some men on this site (and perhaps some men would say the same of some women on the site.).

I am not impressed that you think you are going to retire in a few years, or that you are a millionaire. Money comes and money goes. I am interested and will be impressed by the person you are within - your honesty, integrity, interest in a relatioship, your energy level about life, a relationship, your family, etc.

I am an attractive, intelligent, hard working and self-supporting 53 yr. old woman. I can manage and operate a very good job and household and two kids on my own. I want someone to share the fun things in life like cooking together, taking a walk, playing golf, getting ready for friends and relatives for BBQs or holiday meals..... I want to be able to share and have someone share in return the not-so-fun things in life too. It all is what makes life what it is.

Thank you for reading my heartfelt profile. It does express my more recent experiences on this site and some of the people I have met. It expresses what I want and am looking for and what I'm not interested in.... know what I mean?

Our first encounter - the first communiction via this site - will make my first impression of you. How we plan to meet, what we plan to do, etc. will further establish my feelings (or lack thereof) about you and who you are. I will come to the date, coffee, dinner, etc. 100%. I'd like to think you will too.

From there we can decide together what we would like to do on a 'date.'