Yes, the Turtle ~ Strong and determined, but slow to change~ 12-05-09

I'm gonna lay it down in a way that most you woman won't be able to handle...
I'm gonna tell the truth. The whole, awful truth.

Been single for over 8 years now. I have a son that I love very much, and an ex that would like to never see me again...yet we stay civil for the sake of our child.

I'm very open minded to new people, to new ideas, very conversational and I like to have a good time.

I'm a "Nice Guy" that goes out of my way to help others but can't seem to help myself. That has lead me to be used by several women, to help them and hold them, but not close enough to seemingly have a relationship with them. I have more female friends then care to have, yet not one wants me more then "just a friend".

I'm a pervert. Somehow long ago I equated love with sex... and now I don't have either one to warm my heart. I've had my share of one-night-stands, and I'm not proud of them, shamed by my past. I want a woman for the long term. I want a wife, I want an equal I can share my life with. Not just some wet hole to stick my meat in.

"Not looking for intimate encounters"? ~ Let me tell you this women. I can go a long time without sex. First date, second date... hell I'll wait a month or more if I think your worth it. BUT I LIKE SEX. Like every other red blooded male out there I want to get my d**k wet. But physically, that's just it. Sex is only sex, shallow and lonely without love. I want love. I want that deep feeling of connection. I want the earth to shake when I make love, and I know how to do it, yet no one to do it with. So I'll reiterate, I'm NOT looking for a one-night-stand (or 2 or 3 ~ lol) but a LIFETIME of intimate encounters. Cuddling, hand holding, kissing, AND sex. Through the good AND bad.

I'm attractive and intelligent. Yet my past and my upbringing have let me to believe that I'm not worth loving. My confidence shattered by a sea humiliation, of empty promises, of out right being laughed at by women. Yes, in high school I was the butt of many pranks by women, you know what kind of scaring that can lead to? All those past and current issues just makes me want to try to be "nice-er" even more, only to push women away even faster.

I'm looking for an attractive and well put together woman. Yet not a single one of you want a messed up man as myself. And I'm not looking for ripped abs, or some 100 lb light weight. But I'm not looking to tip the scales over 200+. Height and weight proportionate please. Thick is fine, since I'm no hard body, but I have my limit, after that I'm just settling, and I do not want to settle for less then I'm worth.

(and this sounds bad but a larger woman tried to contact me, but she looked EXACTLY like my sister... Me, thinking I was being nice by telling the truth, told her this and she blew up at me thinking I was lying to her!~ Said she never had someone blow her off with such lies.. even though I was telling the truth)

I've given up on finding someone. The old tale of "there's someone for everyone" is a steamy pile. Not everyone is meant for someone. Most of you out there will find someone, a few of you ladies won't. That's life. And the sooner I except that the better off I'll be. Maybe life will surprise me down the road, and that's why I'm not burning all my bridges... but if I hold on to the hope that I'll find someone... for SURE it never will happen.


BASICS :
Single father of one.
I work full time
Have my own wheels
I love most music
Generally easy going
Loyal as a dog (and house broken too) lmao
Trying to get a business profitable on the side
I love to read, but find little time to anymore
Pride myself on my hands that can fix and create

BIGGEST PET PEV : All you dumb women that say your not attracted to a man like me, then date a total douchebag that cheats, uses you, and THEN you wonder why that keeps happening to you!~ I've seen that more times then I care to recall. WTF? I'm attractive, smart, all that crap, AND HAVE A JOB... You say I don't have confidence??? Of COURSE I don't have confidence since I feel like a f**king leper to you women. Your attracted to confident men?? Most those guys know there a**holes and can get away with treating you like shit, but your attracted to them and THATS what makes them confident...


MUSIC : Classic rock is the best. Oldies are fun too. Country is ok, Rap? Ehh... it's ok but not too into it. Favorites? Pink Floyd, Bob Dylan, Led Zeppelin, Beetles, Metallica (older stuff) Tool was pretty cool. Sheryl Crow, Suzanne Vega, Beach boys, Rolling Stones, Meatloaf, Billy Joel is a genius, So is David Bowie... Hell even Neil Diamond! I like most everything, so I usually listen to JOE 97.3 (I love trying to name all the songs)~lmao

HOBBIES : Very diverse. For a while I was very into painting. But lack of spare money has keep that at bay for a while. Oil, acrylic, water color, all were fun. Used to draw very well in high school, but don't practice much now. I dabbled in photography, still do a little but more digital now. Before my grandfather passed away, he taught me a bit about working with stain glass. After he died I got is stuff for it and worked with that a little bit too. I collect coins. Been on a fossil expedition in Alpena too (yes amature paleontologist) Currently? Working on my cars. Nothing special, just keeping them going. Also biking around the city... I need the exercise, and it's free ~ lol

PHOTOS : My pictures are not too old, maybe a year or two at best, but I'm still the same, neither bigger or smaller, maybe just a pinch less in the hair department but not much~lol~ The big point I wanted to make was the Jedi pic. Some women out there might misconstrued it to mean I'm a nutcase, and while I AM a sci-fi fan, I can assure you of my sanity. But I take some pride in my Halloween costume since I made it all by hand, and learned to use a sewing machine just for that sole project. Trick-or-treating with my son is awesome while wearing that, and if at a party? I get a LOT of comments on it. ;)

SMOKING? ~ Yes it's a vial habit and I've quit many times, but it's so easy to quit quiting and give in when things go bad. Recently got REALLY sick with the flu and used it as a good time to quit the habit. I NEVER smoked around my son, and hopefully from now on?.. Won't smoke when he's not around too ~ lol

I have no doubt that this site is a waste of time for me, and that I'm not going to find anyone... but I hope you open your eyes and see that there are good guys out there that just need something to believe in.

I feel like a cursed frog, waiting for a princess to break the spell and show the world what kind of prince I am ~ But be honest with yourself... how many of you out there want to kiss a frog????

Hmmmm... get so few of them... lmao


I like pool, darts, cards (crap, all the bar scene stuff) lol ~ and YES I like to got to a bar or two now and then. But I also like to bowl (cheesy) putt-putt (super cheesy) and generally up for anything. I also love to bike, used to roller blade but it's been years. Euchre anyone? Careful though, I'll call it on Ace/Nine and still make the point! ;)