All right, here's the deal: I'm a single mom. I have my kids half the time. I love them madly, as any parent would. But I'm not here looking for a new daddy for them. This place is for ME.

I don't have a lot of rules about who I will date. Be intelligent, kind, funny, attractive (which is obviously subjective - I mean attractive TO ME), maybe hung like a horse, and at least a year or so older than me, and I'll be happy! LOL!

Was that offensive? Sorry. But let's face it. Looks (and sex) really do matter in any potential romantic relationship. I want someone that I constantly want to rip clothes off of. Someone I can barely keep my hands off of when we're in public. Someone, frankly, as naughty as I am.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not looking for a 1-night-stand. I'm looking for the LTR. I enjoy my time alone. But I would like to have someone to share my time and life with.

While I don't have many rules about who I WILL date, there are a few things I do NOT want in a relationship:

1. A man who's never lived away from Mommy.
2. A man who lives with Mommy and also works with her.
3. A man who is more concerned with the car he drives than the house he lives in.
4. A man who sits around doing nothing but playing video games and complains about having to go out for a few hours.
5. A man who isn't emotionally available and willing to give his all to a great relationship.
6. I don't tolerate alcoholics or any other sort of substance addiction.
7. If you're religious, we won't get along.

I'm one of the most caring, loving, loyal, smart, talented, modest (lololol), naughty people you'll ever meet. And I'm looking for someone much like me in those same ways.

Oh, let's see...what else: I'm a classical singer (primarily opera) and violinist, and I run my own opera company. I work from home, but would love to find better/different work to do that still allows me to be here with the kids. And I took up cycling last year. I just completed my first AIDS/LifeCycle in June - rode 565 miles from San Francisco to Los Angeles in support of the Los Angeles Gay & Lesbian Center and their work with people struggling with HIV/AIDS. It was truly one of the most remarkable experiences of my life - and I just signed up again for next year!!

I know "coffee" dates are cliche. But really...if you're anything like me, you can tell pretty quickly if there's any chance that you're going to want a second date. A coffee date gives us both the chance to talk, get to know each other a little bit, and then leaves things open to either another date, continuing the one we're on, or simply having a polite goodbye.

I actually do like to "chat" first via Yahoo IM (I won't use the PoF IM service, sorry). Since my schedule tends to be rather erratic, it's a nice way to get to know one another a bit before meeting in person. I don't expect IM to be our sole means of communication, but it's convenient and...well...instant.