WARNING: If you are emotionally unavailable, abuse substances, can’t leave your mental case ex in the past bc u truly think that's all u deserve and that a mental case like that is the only one who will understand how f'ed up you are, are a manic depressive or self-destructive, self-loather, or just generally are not ready for a relationship – should it get to that point -- no matter how much you fool yourself into thinking you are, I am NOT interested. I already found all that on here. Thanks.

P.S. – I also found what I thought to be exactly what I was looking for on here. And honestly, it was great. Unfortunately, life circumstances ended things, but I still have no regrets because I thought I knew how I wanted to feel before and how I wanted someone to feel about me and when I found it, it was even more that I ever could have imagined. And it just proved to me that this “thing” I always sort of imagined but could never quite put my finger one CAN exist and now I hope to find the right one for that. I also point this out to show you that finding someone on a website really CAN be a good thing! haha Don’t lose hope guys!

One more caveat: PLEASE HAVE AT LEAST ONE PIC IN YOUR PROFILE OR EMAIL. OTHERWISE, NO MATTER HOW GREAT YOU MIGHT BE, WE WILL NEVER GET ANYWHERE BECAUSE I WILL NOT RESPOND. AND IF YOU'RE THE GUYS WHO HAS HIS D*** SIZE AS HIS PROFILE NAME, PLEASE MOVE ON -- I'M NOT HERE JUST LOOKING TO GET LA*D. ONE MORE THING, IF YOU ARE UNDER 30...OK MAYYYYYBE 29 or 28....it's just not gonna work for anything more than fun and I have had enough fun. Not looking for that. We are on different pages in life, and so let's not waste each other's time.

Ok, now that I got all of that out of the way, I KNOW that sounds a little rude, maybe, but let's be honest here - this is dating site. You don't have to be the most gorgeous, sexy guy in the world BY FAR for me to want to date you...but there does have to be SOME attraction and why spend time - which I don't know about you but I never seem to have enough of - on a dating site talking to and getting to know someone you're not attracted to in the end?!

Also, the part I put where I say I'm not just looking to get la*d is totally true and please don't waste my time if that's what you are doing on here. I've seen enough of that - for girls that's SO not a challenge. Impress me with something more. Impress me by having more to you than a hot body and sexual prowess! I mean, really, you'll just bore me to death and we will both waste our time.

And, a relationship is hard enough without being on totally different pages in life, so age makes a difference...sorry, but it's just the truth. Learning that comes with age and experience, hence young guys (or girls) using the annoying-but-really-just-naive "age is just a number. Oh, also, I hate when guys have pictures of them with girls who are obvious ex's in their pics...what is that all about? Just stupid...

OK, so enough BS...let me tell u about me, since that's why you came onto my page in the first place, and you are probably tired of my ranting already. I am the kind of friend you can totally be yourself with, someone who will call you out when you're NOT being yourself; someone who is probably one of the realest chicks you'll ever meet; someone who wears her heart on her sleeve even when she's trying to cover it up; someone who has taken her lumps and learned from every single experience and is finally at the point where she is comfortable with the person she has become and looks forward to growing more each day; someone who has learned every day to be more and more fearless; someone who is kind and sweet but won't sugar-coat reality and won't just tell you what you want to hear but rather tell you the truth in the nicest way possible if the truth isn't so nice (haha); someone who can be themselves in front of you; someone who can make you laugh till you pee and loves to have you makes her laugh like that, too; someone who can make you think; someone who is mature and ready to move upward and forward in life but is laid back at the same time; someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously but can be serious when it's time; someone who is passionate and sensual yet silly and chilled out; someone who is just a real girl who hates the drama, hates fakeness, hates superficiality, who loves to have fun, is quirky and normal at the same time, expects to be treated nicely and expects to return the favor. That's me.

And here's a quick snapshot of some other, more surface-type stuff about me: I'm 35 live in Jersey City, NJ with my two dogs/sons (lol...I am sick), Luigi & Herman; grew up in East Brunswick, NJ; born in Queens, NY; I am currently changing careers after two layoffs in one year! I recently finished school for personal training and nutrition and am working at an upscale gym chain in the city; I went to University of Maryland for undergrad and got an MBA in Marketing at Baruch College; I love lots of types of music (hard rock, alt. rock, classic rock, metal, house, hip hop, reggae, R&B, old school, freestyle, latin, lounge/ambient, pop...you name it!) and I have lots of different styles cuz I guess my ADD prevents me from choosing just one and I have so many things I'm into or think are attractive; I try to respect all kinds of people cuz I don't think I'm better than anyone else, but if you suck then I'm gonna call you on it and let you have a piece of my mind, and if I really hate you, then I'll probably wanna catch you somewhere so I can kick your ass hahah jk...I'm a luva not a fighta! Sorta! Actually, I'd rather try to talk or even argue it out; I'm Jewish by birth and culture but not religious at all and don't care what religion you are (but if you are like the type who's in church or synagogue every weekend, well, I don't think it's gonna work out for us); I love to go out...whereever....as long as it's fun or I can turn it into fun, but I also am just as happy staying at home and relaxing and regrouping; I have the greatest family in the world and I am very close with them and hope I can share that with you (would be nice if you had the same thing going on - family is very important to me), and thankfully, lots of friends (although, maybe I should say acquaintences, cuz as I have learned...only a special few REALLY earn that title) but I always love to make more so hit me up if you wanna get to know more.

I ran out of room above, but I have a lot to say (obviously) so I am continuing here:

Well, they only let you choose one option for what you are looking for, and I chose long-term, cuz yeah, ultimately that is the goal. However, let's be realisitic, you have to date and meet lots of people usually before you find that, so I am really here to meet new people, have fun and whatever happens, happens!

So...how will I know when it's the right one for that "long-term" relationship? Well...I wanna start slow, but when we know something's there, we focus on it without the distraction of others and see if we wanna take it anywhere and then, if so, where we can take it....I'm tired of lots of beginnings and then people being too scared to go further or are too scarred from their past. We all go through sh*t- get over it, move on and grow from it instead of letting things hold you back from find true happiness. If you don't think you deserve that, then you really are not strong enough to be my man.

As for a first date, let's chat a little first, see what we have in common, see how our personalities and senses of humor mesh, and then we can decide what would be the most fun things for us to do!!!