I am 37 y/o single father of 3 mixed children which makes this really hard because alot of women seem to be uncomfortable with that and i do not want to be confined to just one race because of this so if you respond please keep in mind my children are not all white and not all black they are both (this has been included to help devert the ones who do not like that from mistaking and wasting their time.) I been alone with them for 4 years and now that their grandma is able to help with them sometimes I am now ready to see if the right woman is out there. I would love to meet someone who is not only able but willing to relocate if chemistry is there. at least be able to visit. If there is one thing i am looking for more then anything else it is a woman who is on fire for God. (that woman will know what that means) she loves to praise and worship and to discuss and read the bible and loves to pray with her man and for him. AND I HAVE ONE QUESTION ISNT THERE ONE WOMAN LEFT OUT THERE THAT WOULD LOVE TO BE A FAMILY THAT INCLUDES MY CHILDREN ONE THAT WOULD BE NOT ONLY WILLING BUT GLAD TO TAKE ON A MOTHER ROLE? JUST DON'T SEE THAT ANYMORE AND I WISH I DID.

I like (love) football , and movies comedy, action and drama movies. I would like to find a woman who could see me for who I am not what I have or don't have ,a woman who is not ashamed to admit there religion.

I have been in a bad relationship before and although I survived It has left me with cues and warnigs to look for in new women like I cannot handle a woman who makes a mess and leaves it around for days , If you drop it go ahead and pick it up..lol simple I above all else absolutely require a woman who loves children because mine are my world and I need to know that they will be treated with kindness and love.

As for what I ask from a woman you just heard it. nothing to difficult i hope but if it is your probably not who i am looking for. I do painting and drywall for a living although recently with the weather work has been slow so i have been doing online work (ebay and auctions) I make the bills with this at least when work is slow I am soon considering learning something else that is not so hard on my body maybe i'll just win the lottery!!!...lol ---that was a dream...lol but If you could like or even love a down to earth simple kinda guy who just wants to be Loved by a woman who can see past the looks and the few extra pounds im carrying then your probably right for me so if you think we could click send me a note , not looking for sex or one nighters!! I have been down the one nighter and the sex path to many times now I am simply looking for something real.

have a great day or night which ever it may be when you read this. Happy Holidays!! BTW SAN DIEGO CHARGERS!!! DOMINATE!! GO BOLTS!!!


PS SOME OF YOU HAVE SO MANY CRITERIA THAT NOBODY CAN EVEN MESSAGE YOU JUST THINK ...I NEVER EVER LOOKED FOR CASUAL ENCOUNTERS AND HAVE MET THE CRITERIA FOR SO MANY ADS BUT THAT ONE AND EVEN THOUGH I NEVER DID THAT IT STILL WON'T LET ME MESSAGE YOU!! SO WITH THAT SAID HOW MANY GUYS OUT THERE HAVE YOU MISSED CONTACT WITH BECAUSE OF THE CRITERIA? I AM NOT ASKING ANYONE TO ACCEPT MESSAGES FROM PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT WHAT THEY ARE LOOKING FOR BUT JUST MAKING YOU AWARE THAT EVEN IF A PERSON DOESNT SMOKE OR HAS NEVER CONTACTED ANYONE REGARDING CASUAL ENCOUNTERS ETC...THIS SYSTEM STILL BLOCKS THEM. JUST SOME FOOD FOR THOUGHT. I KNOW I HAVE MISSED QUITE A FEW CONNECTIONS BECAUSE OF THAT. HAVE A GREAT DAY!!!

AS FOR DATING THIS IS MY TAKE ON IT WOMEN PLEASE READ CAREFULLY!!

RULES TO IT.. READ IT GET IT... EVERYONE
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you, as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think, "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINKS his/her choices, and another man/woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them! BY THE WAY, A MAN WROTE THIS, SO TAKE A HINT...........


NEXT I WOULD LIKE TO INTRODUCE MY TAKE ON THE DIFFRENCE BETWEEN A WOMAN VS GIRL

GIRL VS WOMAN

Girls vs. Grown Women

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits in.

Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.

Girls hold grudges, stay mad for 40 years, and don't get mad but get even
Grown women confront the situation and don't get mad but get ahead

Girls envy those who move ahead and hate the players
Grown women shares her knowledge and help other move ahead by not hating the players but teaching the rules to the

I think a movie is a great idea and talking is most important I find that lack of communication even from the start is a killer so be open can't get to know a mime right?