Learning to accept and make changes in my life feels like my mantra right now.

Did you ever have that strange feeling with the words describing your changing status – I’m engaged, I’m a wife/husband/spouse, I’m divorced, I’m widowed, I’m employed, I’m retired.

I am learning to call myself single now instead of widow. I am re-emerging and claiming my attributes. I am also at a point in life where I want to become better at living in the present and let go of anger about things in the past I cannot change. I could tell you all about my past, but at this age, we all have our pasts and must learn to connect in the present and for the future.

I am bold, passionate, adventurous, compassionate, colorful, sensual, unconventional, like to dance, like to create rituals to mark special occasions, and want to continue to learn new things - fishing, boating, growing food, alternative healing, etc. I enjoy reading and writing; a man who is very witty and articulate will catch my attention.

I'm not much of a drinker, though I can enjoy a social glass of Shiraz. I am an avid black tea drinker though! Just keep the kettle hot for me!

A former urban US gal, I moved to the Comox Valley in 2005 to live a more rural, sustainable lifestyle. My partner of 27 years died unexpectedly in December 2007. We had no children. I do have a cat.

I love being by the water and for 2010 I intend to take sailing lessons so I can enjoy being on it as much as I enjoy walking its shores. I feel blessed as well to be able to witness our magical mountain views, and enjoy wintertime snow shoeing and summertime hiking up at Mt. Washington.

The man I would be attracted to would:
*share my passion for local foods – growing it, wild crafting it, buying local, bartering, cooking. If you are a gardener/farmer, maybe I'll weed for you?!
* be conscientious about keeping your eco-footprint low. At a minimum, you recycle, eh?
* be articulate, witty, have a sense of humor. You have opinions and are willing to share them.
* not be a couch potato. I don’t watch TV but I do enjoy watching DVDs. What are some of your favorites?
* not smoke cigarettes and not be a heavy drinker. Nothing turns me off like a drunken, bloodshot eyed, stupid sounding person.
* not be someone who chooses to post photos of himself with a fancy sports car. An alternative fuel vehicle, a fishing boat…that’s a different story.
* understand the need to give a partner space, someone who could pursue separate interests and not define a relationship where we should do everything together, all the time

Not so important as whether the first contact leads to a second contact!

Walk a labyrinth together? Collect oysters on the shore, roast them over a fire and eat them? Gather seaweed for mulch?