| | What is it about the thrill of life that takes us away from those we love?
Can you maintain you daily life and still find time to enjoy yourself?
Are you looking for something "more"?
We have a limited time here - better to enjoy it with someone we can believe in than someone without a desire to live.
Me? I jump on and off this site regularly because what can I say? I love women.
I've found some great female friends on POF, and hope to bump into more.
I've found there are some women - one is too many - whose men really treat them poorly, like chattel; and figure if nothing else a kind word or two can go far in showing that men (like women) aren't all the same, and we can chat without trying to work an angle toward sex. Don't misunderstand; I enjoy a physical relationship as much as any guy, probably more than most - but I'm not here to put notches in the headboard. I find most of your profiles quite interesting, some very sad when one scratches the surface and discovers hearts barely used or very abused. I can't change your pasts and probably will have nothing to do with your future; but I can lend an ear and give a guy's perspective once in a while. My hope is that if nothing else, maybe you read this profile and draw something useful from what I've included.
If you're curious and want to chat or email - feel free.
Can we chat? Sure. Can we meet sometime? Maybe. Will we "hook up"? Probably not.
DISCLAIMER: Do as I say, NOT as I do. :)
More about me?
Well, don't do the biker thing - so if your looking for a profile which mentions anything about Harleys, motorcycles, bikes, bikers, etc. - move along, thanks for shopping and good luck.
WARNING: Opinions follow, intended to help you gals catch our eyes.
Not the gospel, just one guy's thoughts.
Don't think pics with kids belong here. It's great that you have families, etc. - but IMHO pics containing kids have no place on this site.
There are some real weirdos out there, ladies - do you really want your families exposed to them on the internet?
If your profile includes pics with lots of cleavage, lingerie, boobs hanging out and other overtly obvious attempts at being seductive - please don't moan about all those horn-dogs that keep bothering you. Trust me, if you want to be truly seductive - show less, not more. Else, enjoy the harassment.....
The beauty inside is what counts; however ladies if you're trying to catch someone's attention, the pics and looks are what catches any man's eye. If they're not your best pics - don't use them; invest a bit, present yourself. Don't over-do it, certainly; but do take the time to look your profile over and ask "Do I like how I look?" - and again, as if I haven't stressed this enough - ditch the kids. Not because guys don't like kids - but their pics on dating websites really kind of creeps me out, and I'm guessing I'm not alone on this point.
Spelling. So, you know how to create a profile on POF yet have never heard of "spellchecker"? Don't be surprised if you don't hear from many savants when your profile says you're looking for a man who is "inteligint" or "deecent".
Looking for your soulmate, Prince Charming, man of your dreams? That's all good, but why not describe who you think might fit the bill? Saying you're looking for "kindhearted" "loving" "caring" "nice" guys is kind of like golfing with a Judge. Sure, his score card shows "par" - but unless you actually witness his strokes, you'll just have to assume it to be true.
Help these guys out. If you're looking for personality traits, what are they? How about physical attributes - what works for you best? Outgoing guys a must, or do you prefer the quieter type? Outdoorsy or spectator sports? See, these things can trip a guy's radar knowing there's a woman looking for HIS type.
Be realistic about the stuff you actually do and enjoy doing - not what you "think" you'd enjoy doing, might have done once or twice in your lifetime or seems really romantic in your fantasy.
Your nets may be so large that many fish are just swimming through, afraid of being able to live up to your "adventures" or believing you're going to be one high maintenance lady - requiring extensive travel, beach time, Harleys, a stable full of horses, fancy dining, weekends on our boats, trips to the city to see plays, etc.
I would say here, from a guy's perspective, I remember what I'm often told at work; K.I.S.S. (keep it simple, stupid); Again, maybe less is more and remember who your target audience is - GUYS. The less information we have to process, the better.
Save the dream of climbing Mt. Everest for your third chat session, don't clutter your profile with it. Learning that stuff should be part of getting to know each other any way, right?
Finally, if your views tend to lean decidedly left or right - note it. The James Carville-Mary Matalin successes in this world are few, I'm guessing; and having a clue about your politics might even get a great conversation started.
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