I am 51, a fairly intense person and like to run and swim each day. I am looking for a woman who is physically fit. I have two sons from my previous marriage aged 18 and 14. I have a strong desire in developing a long term relationship with a woman. There is much in my life I have yet to learn and experience and I would like a good woman to help me focus my awareness into the wisdom I lack. As well, I am looking for a woman to be a friend and help her grow. I would like my partner to be patient, grounded, wiser from life's experiences. Honesty and failthfulness are important qualities I look for in a person. I would very much like to start living my life in the moment and not be pre-occupied with the drama of life; I would like to find the fun in life again! I like all forms of music, as I played an instrument when I grew up.

The first date needs to be an active encounter. I would want to go to a place with action and people such as the 3rd Street Promenade in Santa Monica, or Universal City Walk. Or perhaps go somewhere in Thousand Oaks to take a hike on some trails. There are some museums that are nice and allow for a casual interaction to find out who this person is. I want more than anything to make sure I am in an environment that will allow me to focus on my partner and be there in the moment with here. I want to have time to learn who she is as a person, what her likes and dislikes are, talk about areas of how can I help her. I would like to be in an open area, so we could be open about ourselves, see who we are, perhaps see if there is anything more than a first date.