All this stuff below is an attempt to answer the proverbial question: “Tell me a little about yourself.” It is a first-step effort to determine the probability of compatibility. Yes, it is a screening process for us both.

PHYSICAL

We all know what is said about being and remaining medically healthy and physical fit. Whether we like it or not, the fundamental foundation of life is physical. The difficulty is doing it day-to-day. How well and consistently we apply it in our lives shows how dedicated we are, and how well we can motivate ourselves. What we gain is the energy and stamina to live, learn, work, plan, and play better that those that do not hold to the principles. Beyond that, being “attractive” is a chance event. Whether faces are seen in a positive or negative light by others is a genetic roll-of-the-dice. Our mothers held the opinion we were beautiful. Maybe she was trying to teach us that the deeper we love, the more beauty is perceived.

EMOTIONAL-INTERPERSONAL

This is second only to our physical area of functioning. It is said that how well we speak to ourselves is a reflection of how well we speak to others. Good communications with people in our life is most important. If we can suspend our judgment so that they can say their say, then they will feel free to explore the relationship. We know also we have to show them we want to be there with them (physically attend), observe for any clues on how they might be feeling, listen, and respond (accurately). It also means we should first respond from their frame of reference before coming from ours. Whatever it is that we express to other, it is for better or worse.

INTELLECTUAL

Am I educated? Yes. Do I work hard and do the best I can? Yes. Do I enjoy my job? Yes. Can I solve problems? As best I can. How well do I handle finances? As best I can. Can I help others solve problems? Yes. Do my problem solving skills consist of “yes or no” or “do it or don’t do it” or is it all the alternatives between these extreme options? Yes, because more often than not, they make the problem worse?

SOCIAL

Have I given back to the community/society what it has provided me – opportunities? Yes. And yes, I do have a sense of humor. Yes.

SPIRITUAL

Do I believe in God? Always. Is He always with me? Yes. Do I do the right thing because it is the right thing to do? Yes.

CLOSING

I know well the risk of presenting myself in this way. At best I am seen as an egghead, at worse, overconfident. I do know quality knows quality; we get what we earned; the principle of cause-and-effect continues to be a reality, and what we say and do to others is a cause and effect action. What works, works.

Wait, listen, and respond over-and-over until the lady in her own soft and sweet way invites me to quietly hold her hand.