Okay…about me…I enjoy a good laugh and putting a smile on someone’s face always hits home for me. I am a working professional and I attend Cal State Fullerton part time. I don’t have kids…and I think it’s funny this site actually has a “do you have a car” area. Which by the way…yes I do. Haha. I consider myself to be a good man and I think I’m pretty easy going and enjoy chatting. I’ve traveled all around the world and actually lived in Turkey for two years. I’ve made my way back to the OC and I would really like to meet a woman to compliment me. I’m new to this site…so I’m excited to see how this goes.

I do enjoy writing and blogging. I’m actually going to post one of my most recent ones. If you want to see more, I’m on my-space too…more of my blogs are there as well…just look up Juan Arballo...that's me!

J~

BLOG…

The X factor

Can an X factor really mean that much?

I was thinking…maybe soul mates don’t exist…maybe there is only an X factor, something that burns in side you…that feeling…something that makes everything else disappear. It can be something huge…or maybe something small…as small as a smile…or as pretentious as a status, or a personality trait…maybe its a person’s wit…or just that feeling when your just near that person… the feeling of affection…the feeling of that perfect kiss, or having your hair played with, or your hand held...plain and simple, it’s the X factor…

But…should an X factor be the final factor? I mean, this is real life…not a song or a movie…it’s a relationship…it’s a commitment…the ultimate commitment…maybe even a marriage…

Maybe an X factor shouldn’t be the foundation of a life time dedication…to someone…to yourself…to your children…maybe it’s something just for story books…and maybe we need to be more practical…maybe words like stability…and dependability are more important then...that kiss…or that touch…

Sometimes I look around…and I don’t see a lot of success…I mean…how many more separations and divorces are there then the "forever"… but is it because that X factor hasn’t been fulfilled, or because the X factor was too weak to stand the storm?

Maybe the X factor is not enough…

I’ve had an amazing X factor…and still…I don’t understand why it wasn’t enough…maybe it was my X factor…and not hers…maybe we needed to share X factors for each other…maybe she had that X factor for me…but in the end…it just wasn’t enough…

Was it enough?

And if it was enough…then why wasn’t it enough in that last minute?

Do you have an X factor? Or do the "other factors" overshadow that one?

Maybe you leave that X factor with a flame that burned years ago…when we were naïve and young…when life was simple…not like now…with so much at stake…real life…when responsibility has become the only factor…

Can a relationship survive on an X factor?

These days…I’m not certain...I really don’t know…but I guess we have to believe don’t we? Have faith.

Only one thing I’m certain of…that the X factor…has a lot to do with those damn butterflies…the ones in your tummy when your with that person…always…

J~

I'm very open to this, I think it varies with the situation and company. But, if it's up to me, a casual drink and dinner is always a good time. Some where lively, but not to loud. I'd like to enjoy the ambience of people, but quaint enough to have good conversation.