Hello, thanks for looking at my profile. It is for serious inquiries to get an idea of the kind of person that is in the picture. I want the one who is interested to really know who I am as best as they can before meeting so that time and resources are not wasted.

There is a quote that struck a chord with me that I would like to share, "When you realize the value of your life, you dwell less in the past and concentrate on the preservation of your future." (Dian Fossey) My philosophy is that life is always changing. It is always a process. I realized for me that when I accepted this idea, I felt more OK with reality. Life is really amazing. I believe that when the STUDENT IS READY, THE TEACHER WILL APPEAR.

When I laugh, it is whole-hearted and from the gut, (what I have left. LOL). I am thoughtful, conscientious and responsible. I believe I am an assertive and communicative individual with a desire for compatible and stimulating dialog. I try to do the right thing and strive to understand myself and other people. I am a old fashioned in some ways like opening doors and being courteous and respectful to other people. I am also a hopeless romantic and love surprises. I am fun loving. I am spontaneous and unconventional. I am resourceful and tenacious. I do not give up easily.

My idea about relationship is each partner is a good listener and is understanding of the other's feelings; the couple strikes a balance in leisure time spent together and apart; each partner is easy to talk to and is creative and agreeable in handling differences; they are sexually compatible. Maybe love is like rain, sometimes gentle, sometimes torrential, flooding, eroding, quiet, steady, filling the earth, collecting in hidden springs. When it rains, new life grows I am waiting for you to find me.

Having said all of that, these are adjectives and values that define who I am: I'm fun-loving and optimistic, hard-working. I am a critical thinker, so I like good conversation. I am always interested in new things and open-minded. The things I have gone through in my life and the things I have witnessed are the things I have learned from and made me who I am. I do what I say and say what I do. I like to think that I am always working on being a better person. It certainly is not the easiest thing to do. I have made mistakes but not many I regret. I see them as opportunities of growth. If I struggle, I do not give up easily. I know the outcome is a direct correlation to me working harder. Important things to know about me are that I am very solution-oriented, getting to the bottom of things and feeling accomplished are important to me. I do not like to be frustrated by situations that could easily be fixed or prevented all together. I like to know that I am working on becoming a better person every day of my life and expect my partner to be the same. I will challenge my mate to look at life deeply with sincerity and honesty. Please do not email me and waste both our time if you are not interested in this as it is critical to me. I am soft and cuddly and sweet and I will not lie to you, so if you want someone who is genuine and authentic to the core and is not afraid to look at himself honestly, then feel free to write. I expect that if I receive an email from you that you are also able to offer me the same.

Ultimately, I want someone who is balanced, honest, sincere, assertive, expressive, successful and happy in career (this does not mean making a lot of money- that is very superficial, which I am not). I am a passionate, who cares about my partner, community, the environment, and people. (especially veterans and their families). These things are serious to me and I want my mate to have a deep respect for them as well.

I have made my share of mistakes, so if your judgmental or narrow minded, my life may be too much for you to handle. I don't have the time, or the inclination to defend myself from judgmental people. My life has had its share of bad luck, crazy twists, and sharp turns. I decide what to do with those challenges, and I choose to find the courage and strength inside me to persevere despite the difficulties that have come my way. If this is completely foreign to you, chances are you will not have any sense of appreciation for me. So if that doesn't scare you away, let’s see where it goes.

I have learned that life is not easy and it takes effort to be thoughtful and unselfish. I have learned how to communicate my feelings better in a more healthy way. I still can be impulsive, but not as much as I used to be. I still have a tendency to want to control things, but am much more aware of its impact on the people around me and make an effort not to be, my expectations are realistic. I have come to realize, people do what they want, you cannot coerce them to do something they don’t want to do.

I am interested in who people "are", not what they have, or what they do for a living. I am seeking someone kind, loving, caring, and compassionate. Giving, sharing, and mutual respect goes a long way with me. I am interested in you if you know who you are, what you stand for, and what you want out of life. I am somewhat of a goal oriented person and a planner. I strive to continually achieve a higher place in all things.

So, what do I have to offer? Honesty – I won’t lie to you. Integrity – I am a product of my values, principles, and commitments. If our relationship starts to go south, I will not run away. I will stay and fight for it. I will always be there as long as you are too. I will not smother you but I will not let you feel abandoned either. Communication– I have been around long enough to know what you want. I recognize the little innuendos you throw my way and the things you say that you do not even know you have revealed. I will react appropriately to them. Obviously, I cannot read your mind but with time, you will think I can. I speak my mind.

Your location is hopefully not so far away that sharing the stolen moments or little things in life (kisses and hugs) is like planning a road-trip. I hope that we both have some shared interests and somewhere we just do our own thing to give each other the time to miss each other. I want to miss you, but not to the point where we have totally separate lives!

I do not have to be entertained and do not need to go out all of the time. I like home cooking and am a great cook! I am very affectionate. I love to kiss. I think foreplay starts outside of the bedroom and "builds" from there.

A walk in the park, A picnic at the lake in a quit place, home made dinner at your place, by the way, did I mention I do cook?