I'm a 59 year old, 6ft tall, 167#, divorced male with a full head of dark brown hair (gray at the temples). I was married for 20 years, while my ex wife and I raised our two daughters. We separated and divorced 10 years ago, as my younger daughter was about to enter high school, and I lived close by. Now they are all grown up, with the youngest just graduating college.

In the 10 years,since divorce, I've dated enough to be realistic about "online dating", so my "must have's" list is fairly short. :)

For me dating has to be in response to mutual attraction and the fulfillment of compatible needs, or else, there is no point to it.I'm far more interested in the
"who", than I am in predefining the "dating goal". Harmony, and naturally liking being with each other is key for me. If there is an ease between a man and woman, and an affirming and positive dynamic, the "relationship" will define itself.

I've dated a fair amount in the 10 years since my divorce, and have had several relationships of a year or longer. While I've ignored it a few times, and tried to fit square pegs into round holes, life wisdom has shown that either two people "fit" or they don't, and one usually knows which right from the start.


I've been dating, or in relationships, for most ot the time, since my divorce. It's far better to "take a break" from dating for awhile, than to be in pursuit of the "wrong" one, and inviting negativity into my life. I'm open to what life might bring, though, and if someone irresistable and exceptional crosses my path, it would be a wonderful thing. In the meantime, I'm enjoying the fora, and keeping my eyes open.

Were I to start dating again, there would have to be a mutually affirming dynamic between us along with enough mutual physical attraction to make us "just have to" see each other in real life. While I can be friends with anyone, the key for me, in terms of being attracted to a woman is that she is on the slender side of average.

I realize that it's not "politically correct" to say "looks matter", but the reality is that they do. I'm not looking for "America's next top model", nor would I want to date her. However, for a dating relationship to be possible, two people have to be attractive to each other.

My ideal would be to find someone, where there's a natural "fit", in terms of "dating style", and an ability to openly share ourselves with each other. Dating should be fun, exciting, and fulfilling. If dating isn't fun, and doesn't make life better, then what's the point?

I've met some fascinating, exciting, and passionate women, and have had several relationships that have lasted "for a time", but am yet to meet "the one", where we just naturally fit physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I hope those who I've met, and the few with whom I've had relationships look back at it as having been a "good" part of life, and full of great memories, as do I.

So, for now, I'm in a good place in life, comfortable with who I am, not afraid of being alone, and I view the future with anticipation and optimism. If the "she" for whom my "he" yearns is out there, and God wills it, we'll connect.

My last 25 posts in the fora can be found here:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/usermessages.aspx?user_Id=11579052

So much depends on common interests that two people discover in early conversation. By default, dinner at a mid-level restaurant, like Applebee's, is always a good way to start.