MUST BE ABLE TO READ AND COMPREHEND THE FOLLOWING (don't laugh or think I am witchy; apparently a lot of men DON'T take the time, and then it's my fault if we are not a good match).

I am a woman who has been cautious in her dealings with her heart since a divorce in 2005 following 24 years of marriage. I am ready for risk, and in return, someone is going to get a wonderful woman. I am kind, intelligent, interesting, well-traveled, well-read, a great cook, a wonderful hostess. I have a warmth that pulls people to me, with a very outgoing personality and a passionate, sensual, naughty side that is just waiting for the right man. I love sports, especially college football and basketball (go, BIG XII!). Both children are grown; my son and his wife are missionaries in Mexico, and my daughter and I co-habitate in Edmond.

I believe that we treat those we love as though we DO love them, and that we take care of their hearts and their souls, nurturing each as best as we possibly can. I don't mind submitting to the man as the head of the household (which should not be confused with being submissive, people...!) in a relationship, but by golly, he'd better be strong enough to handle it!

I am looking for love, kindness, tolerance, passion, adventure, sensuality, tenderness, intelligence, someone who understands the importance of kissing and touching, a youthful outlook... Sincerety, honesty, integrity should go without saying, but I've found that's not always the case. I would like to say I want to find my soul mate, but I just don't know where that person must be hiding...*smile*

I've had a few who believe I am asking for the impossible; please, I don't want perfection, but I DO want what's perfect for me. That's not going to be the same for everyone, so I don't think it's unreasonable. I know I'm pretty set in my ways, so it's knowing what I prefer, what I can live with, and what are the deal breakers. I don't think we should settle by the time we reach this age - I believe we SHOULD have standards and preferences (unless you've totally been burned by the same type of person over and over...). So many of you are looking for an honest woman who doesn't play games and that is just sad that you've all apparently been burned. Better luck in the future... and while I am at it, while I appreciate that other ethnicities, races, whatever is politically correct, find me attractive, I'm pretty much too old school to date someone who is non-caucasian... sorry...

I'm not easily impressed, and I can't be with someone who smokes - asthma just won't allow it. I don't like facial hair. I prefer a very groomed appearance, and even if a date is casual, please look like you at least made a modicum of effort in your preparations- yes, shower, fresh clothes, clean under your nails, brush your teeth. You'd be amazed at how even THAT is not a priority for many...! Oh, and if you are a man who works outside and is prone to getting dirty, I DO know that it is not impossible to clean your hands and nails - my dad farmed my entire life, and his nails were always clean, clipped, and neat.

I need someone who is going to provide a challenge for me on so many levels, so you must have very strong character. I need mental stimulation, so you should be well-read, well-traveled, and you should probably have a quick, wicked sense of humor. Please note that strength can still be tender, and that humor doesn't mean that Larry the Cable Guy or Jim Carrey are funny to me.

Class is important, and knowing that it cannot be bought is also important. I won't shame you in public, so if you want to take me some place that is very chic, the game is on. I can also be comfortable in a pair of nice boots and jeans. I grew up on the farm, and spent all of my time away from chores in the saddle, but I love the city, too.

I understand art and music, and I find that it can be very subjective. I have an extreme fondness of history, preferably modern Germany, the Reformation, ancient Greece and Italy, and I love to learn and to read, stretching my mind in so many varied ways.

Entertaining is important to me; I come from a very large family, and getting together with friends and family and providing a delicious meal, stimulating conversation, and a wonderful time is important to me. I am a nurturer...but I am not a "mother"...

I am most attracted to men who are more preppy in appearance, although I can VERY much appreciate a nice fitting pair of Wranglers and polished boots with a button-up. There are times and places for tshirts and shorts, but if those are the basis of your wardrobe... well... I have a pretty good idea I may not be for you.

I don't care about age, only that you haven't settled into middle age and being old. I want someone with whom to play, to travel, to appreciate a glass of wine and a fantastic view. He should be able to play with the little ones, and appreciate the elders for what they have given to the younger generations, and show them the proper respect. God had better matter to you, as well.

I am getting better with each passing day, but don't let that keep you from contacting me TODAY... *smile*

A first date should be one that encourages us to get to know about each other. It should be in some place quiet, whether over dinner or a coffee (not really a coffee drinker, but that's alright)is up to you. Be aware that if you invite ME, I will expect you to pay - if I invite YOU? You must be special... lol... and I will act accordingly.Please know that I have very low tolerance for someone glued to their cell phone when we are out; give me the courtesy of your attention and I will do the same. If you are expecting an important call, let me know upfront, and I will understand. If it is a call from the kids, from the ex, from a long-lost buddy, I'm afraid I will expect it to wait until you are through with me. Of course, if you DO take the call, and you know this? I guess that's a good signal that you are through with me... lol... I will keep my phone off and out of sight, so you can expect my attention - please do the same.