Yes, that's right! LOSER WANTED! Women often complain that all they meet are losers. So, I'll bet you are asking yourself why I WANT a loser. Well, when I say that I want a loser, THIS is what I mean: I want to find that special man that will...

*Lose himself in good conversation with me for hours.
*Lose himself in my eyes.
*Lose himself in laughter.
*Lose himself in the beauty of a sunset.
*Lose himself in the smooth melodies of a good jazz CD.
*Lose himself in my kiss.
*Lose himself in the magic of the moment.
*Lose himself in the passion between us.

THAT is the kind of loser that I want. A typical, run-of-the-mill "loser" can just GET LOST! LOL!

If you get a message complimenting your eyes, or your smile, or your taste in music or authors, please do not flatter yourself by automatically assuming that someone is "hitting on you". Sometimes a compliment is just a compliment. I think it's very rude if you send someone a simple, complimentary message, and they don't even bother to acknowledge you. Expressing a simple "thank you" or sending a quick comment back does not mean you are "interested", it just means you have manners. And if I message you, don't worry, you can't "catch fat" if you message me back. With that said:

I have always thought that my profile pretty clearly explains who/what I am looking for. But, lately, it has become evident that I obviously need to "spell things out" in VERY specific terms. So, here goes. Please do not send me a message of "interest" if you:

*Are not a Christian.

*Are younger than 37 years old. (I am tired of the "age is just a number" routine. Age is MUCH more than just a number. It is also very indicative of life experience and maturity.)

*Do not live in the US.

*Live in the US but are not a US citizen.

*Do not have your own vehicle.

*Still live at home with your parents.

*Have young children. (I love children, but I do not wish to deal with all of the drama that often seems to comes along with the "ex factor".)

*Are looking for suggestive chat, "picture exchange", or someone to join an orgy. (If you're here looking for cheap thrills, that is your prerogative, but that is NOT what I am looking for.)

*Do not have a profile picture. (In my experience, someone who will not post a picture is usually trying to hide something. Usually, they have a partner that they do not want finding out that they are on a dating site, or they wish to hide how they truly look. I am a BBW, and I do not try to hide that. Looks are NOT everything, but they do, admittedly, play a part in chemistry and physical attraction. It's shallow, I know, but it's also part of human nature. You're attracted to what you're attracted to. If someone sends me a message, I want to make sure that they are fully aware of my size and are physically attracted to me. And, it is only fair that I be able to determine if I have an initial attraction to someone else in return.)

NOW, if you made it past all of the land mines above and are still interested and intact (LOL!):

I am a very down-to-earth, "home body" type that enjoys the simple things in life. I'm 5 foot nothing and 265 lbs. So, if you're not into BBWs, then I would not be a good "fit" for you. I consider myself to be intelligent, funny, romantic, passionate, affectionate, honest, and loyal. I have a lot to offer to the right man. I would like to find someone who is truly interested in getting to know ME--what I think, what I feel, what I want...and why--And would share these things about himself with me, in return. I am looking for someone who doesn't mind taking things slowly and seeing what may develop over time. My ideal man would share my need to be best friends, partners, confidants, and lovers all-in-one. Also, a potential partner would have to be someone that is willing to communicate openly and be honest.

I am very independent, opinionated, & outspoken and would not be interested in someone that is controlling or would try to change me. I am most attracted to a man that is 37-47 yrs. old, intelligent, affectionate, has a good sense of humor, has a "soft spot" for animals, & is of average build. Although I am a BBW, I am not generally attracted to substantially larger men.

I am very unique and different, and it will take a really special man with that extra "something" to capture my interest and spark the desire to pursue something deeper than basic friendship.

I don't think that a "great date" is necessarily about what you do or where you go. It's more about WHO you are with, how much you laugh and smile while you are together, how comfortable you feel with each other, and how well the conversation flows. It's also an added bonus if you get "butterflies", when you are with them.

Before I met anyone in person, I would have to get to really get to know them through email and phone conversations. Once a solid base of friendship and trust has been established, a first meeting could be something as simple and basic as getting together for coffee, a casual meal, or sitting on a picnic table at the lake and feeding the ducks, while we chat.