Hello pond... well I'm a single parent with an 8 year old girl. This is a deal breaker for most people... she is my world, and no one will ever come before her. Sure... maybe down the line, one day, someone I love may come close to being at the same level... but dues must be paid before that happens. I'm intelligent, funny, sarcastic, witty, can hold a conversation for hours, and oh so modest and humble, I like going lounges, bars, movies, coffee shops, or just for a long aimless drive that gives me time to talk to the person I am with. I'm laid back; I can go from super serious to go with the flow as needed. I have a good job doing something that I love at a company that I love... so all is well in my book. I like to do just about anything. It's not about the activity; it's all about the company.

I am a little old fashioned and a little modern. I believe in chivalry. I think it's a man's job to open doors and pull out chairs. If both people are working, it is both people's jobs to cook and clean, not just the woman's job. I do not believe a woman's place is in the home, however I do think for the first few years, it's good for a baby to have someone home full time (I’d say whoever makes less, not the woman always). I am very attracted to someone with dreams and aspirations... someone who is on track in life and is going after what they want. Dreams mean nothing if you do not do anything to attain them. If you do what you have always done, you will get to where you have always been. That’s for all things in life. Don’t spend months talking about your job, or your relationship, or your weight if you do nothing to change your situation. I am a very positive happy person and do not have time for self loathers. Everyone has their down moments, but if those moments are the rule and not the exception, take control of your life. I have been in the dating field of “fixing people” way to long. I want someone that has no repairs required.

Well, I think a first date would be anything that will maximize my time with the person... talkng and activity. A movie is not a good date... there is no communication for 2 hours or so. It's hard to say what a person is really looking for. I assume that I will know when it fines me. I want the person that WOW's me. I want to not be able to wait to see the person again. I want someone that makes me want to be a better person...

OK... So here are the deal breakers for me... if you are super ghetto and proud of it, can't form a sentence without the use of Ebonics, or you are a stoner, please move on. If the fact that I am a single parent with an 8 year old girl is an issue, then don't bother...

HOWEVER ... These are just my deal breakers for someone that I may end up settling down with... I can always use new friends and people to talk to. If you are not here just to find your "soul mate" and enjoy making friends, having someone to hang out with, and have conversation with... those rules don't apply... friends are a much more diverse realm.