Update November 3, 2009: seeing somebody. good luck in your fishing!

October 6, 2009 update: This is a short version for those who don't like to read:
I'm looking for:
1. companionship and friendship that may or may not lead into something more.
2. Local, local, local (within 25 miles)
3. Caucasian male
4. Age range of 36-49

What I'm NOT looking for:
1. No one night stands, NSAs or hook-ups
2. No married men
3. No person who just works in this area, but lives somewhere outside the local 25 miles.

I just moved to a new house. I have a job, and it pays the bills, but that's about it. As a result, I stay at home. A lot. Not looking for someone who is always on the go, but rather someone comfortable sitting at home playing cards, fiddling with an electric keyboard, or just watching tv.
Weeknights, especially, get quite lonely, and sometimes I want to have someone to go out with on weekends occsionally. Simple things are great...hanging out watching the football game with friends, out to a local event such as Octoberfest or other informal events. I am more informal than formal, and prefer jeans after having to "dress up" for work.

I am looking for someone who can laugh with me (and even at my corny goofball jokes), who isn't overly serious and can be just plain silly sometimes (because I am). A love for dogs is a big plus--you can see my big baby in the pics lol.

I'm pretty much a "come as you are" kind of perosn, who doesn't require hours to get ready. OKAY--back to my regularly scheduled profile:

I am not looking for a husband at this point. I’m still enjoying the freedom of not taking care of one. But I do tend to get sucked into the world of inertia—simply sitting around for lack of better options. I might be online because I don’t have anything better to do (laundry and cleaning does not qualify as “better”). I might be online because I have my kids here, and can’t go out. I might be online because I feel like crap. So I am fairly spontaneous as far as availability. I don’t plan well—it’s better to tell me when you would like to meet, and if I don’t have any obvious obstacles, I can probably make it even on fairly short notice. Waiting for me to contact you lets my inertia set in, and then I get even more timid about making the first move.

I try to check my emails on a fairly regular basis, but sometimes my brain and body are so tired, I can’t summon the energy to write back. I apologize for that in advance if you feel neglected after you have summoned the courage to write and I haven’t responded. Just try again later. I tend to get distracted easily, even being a brunette. And just to be honest here, I don’t really do much “looking” on my own. I tend to review the “viewed me” list, and go from there. I tend to be a little bashful from the side of initiating emails, though. But once I get to know you a bit, all bashfulness generally goes out the door. I am a bit of a traditionalist as far as relationships go in the initial stages, so don’t be afraid to be a little aggressive, but not pushy. (I know this is a fine line.)

I prefer LOCAL people (meaning Hanceville/Cullman area). This is because I’m a spontaneous short-notice person. If I email or meet you, I’m not sizing you up for marriage, and don’t want to be sized up for marriage myself. Everyone has something to offer—regardless if your profile specifies dating, friends, or long term. Activity partner is quite ambiguous though—never know what kind of activity it refers to! Non-sexual activity partners are fine, but I’m not looking for man-hoors. And I’m most definitely NOT looking for casual sexual encounters or one-night stands or affairs with married men. (If you are not willing to know me openly and publicly, then you definitely won’t be “knowing” me intimately either.)

If two people enjoy each other’s company, and become friends, and a dating relationship emerges, then committed relationship is not out of the question. I'm not specifically looking for that, but if it develops, I probably won’t object. I like to let things naturally progress.

I like the outdoors. If you freak out when you see poison oak, uhmmm, you probably won’t enjoy hiking with me. I’m not gonna throw you in it (I try to avoid it myself-but $hit happens). I prefer someone close to my age. Not in their 20’s; not in their 50’s. This may sound superficial, but I have my reasons. I don’t really date outside my race. I have a friendly dog, and two kittens. I don’t have any problems if you have children (I have two myself). We can include them on outings as well (playing at the park, bowling, fishing, lake, etc.) I have a 15 yr old son that lives with me fulltime, and an 8-yr old son that comes every other weekend. I’m not looking for a sugar daddy or a rich man, and I have no aversions to sharing in some of the costs, but he must understand that I don’t have funds for expensive activities.
I don't act like a teenager, but I sure don't act like a middle-aged woman--OMG--I'm middle-aged!!!! I'm fabulously forty--and forty is the new thirty, and if thirty is the new twenty...wow...I'm just halved my age! How cool is that? I love to laugh over the silliest things. I also have a touch of smart-ass in me.

In short (ha ha), I like who I am. Please like who you are.

Something simple and inexpensive, like a coffeehouse. Fishing would be fun too, as would just hanging out at the lake for a little while. And I enjoy talking over dinner as well.