I know you are out there. Haven't found you yet but I KNOW in my heart you are there.

You say you are seeking an honest, intelligent, open-minded, loyal, family-oriented, self-sufficient man who has a good sense of humor.

Although you may think that apppearance does indeed hold some importance, you still are not so shallow you fail to realize the importance of connecting with someone on a much deeper basis-be that emotionally, spiritually, intellectually or perhaps through common interests.

You insist you have had it with all the superficial, self-centered, egotistical men who promise everything and seldom, if ever, deliver. It's often all give and a lot of take, huh?

Many of you say you want a man who realizes some women-maybe even yourself-like to be reminded they are special. You may think chivalry is an outdated concept and indeed you would probably faint were a man to actually open doors for you, take your coat away and even pull out your chair at the restaurant.

You probably subscribe to the idea that a majority of the men on dating sites are here for less-than-honorable reasons and/or mentally deficient in some way.

Some are. Others not so.

So you wade through the dozens of postings on POF hoping to somehow magically stumble on a man who may actually engender and possess those very things you seek.

But experience has taught you to act with caution-or perhaps you have convinced yourself you will NEVER find that guy on POF.

So, that is your dilemma.

Perhaps however it may not come as a surprise there are men(like myself) who do indeed possess many of these "desirable" attributes you so desperately seek.

I will not boldly proclaim that I am "God's gift to women" or a smooth-talker. I obviously can't get "any woman I want."

I am a complicated soul. I am a 42 year old man who has learned that life always holds challenges we must overcome. I have been lied to. I have been cheated on.
I have learned that love for one can die.

I also am acutely aware of my deep desire to CONNECT with you. I desire friendship. I need to do things and have fun. I'm just like you.


I have learned to deal with adversity by overcoming it.

My personal mantra is "that which does not destroy us can only make us stronger."

So, perhaps you are sitting there pondering my "deep thoughts" and wondering IF just maybe you should "break the ice" and drop me a friendly message inviting me to visit your POF profile.

Hey, they say "nothing ventured, nothing gained."

I thank you for reading this message and invite you to futher explore my profile-or even better drop me a line. I just might bite! LOL!

So now for the "good stuff": I'm 5'11" about 220 lbs(pleasantly plump you might say) hazel eyes and brown hair.

I am Italian-American/Scottish-German. I am intelligent, gainfully employed, honest, loyal and trustworthy. I am a great conversationalist(and listener) and have many varied interests.

I am a self-taught musician(guitar mostly) and have composed numerous original instrumentals. Music and the love of it is a life source for me. I would be overjoyed if you just happened to appreciate music as much as I. I would be stunned if you happened to PLAY an instrument or sing.

I'm certain there is SOMETHING we have in common.

I never in a million years would have thought it would be so difficult to meet someone who desires someone like me-especially on POF!

It's obvious I have been doing something wrong. I decided to re-do my profile and put a little more effort into it. Hopefully YOU may have seen something that intrigues you.

I am a proverbial "open book" and very in touch with my sensitive side.

I hear a lot about women wanting a "real man"-whatever THAT means.

No "Bubba" this boy. I love my Dallas Cowboys and I love to fish.

But I also love Bach and Metallica and Styx and Garth Brooks and...about a million others.

I have TRIED to read the Bible lately but I guess I did it wrong-guess I should have started with the "good stuff" (i.e. New Testament) first! LOL!

I did read "The Shack." Loved it but I could talk forever with someone about it's implications and meaning. Yet, where are you?

I have read all of the Jack Reacher Series by Lee Child. Absolutely awesome!

I love King, Koontz, et al...

I'm currently reading a book by Jeffrey Deaver.

I religiously watch Discover, History, Biography, National Geographic, A&E, SyFy...you name it.

I watched the first 2 seasons of "House" and was completely addicted. Was is the operative(no pun intended) word.

I DVR "Dr. Phil." I am a "Ghost Hunters" fan. In fact, I DO some ghost hunting myself sometimes...but that is another story...WOW! I have experienced some weird happenings and I have some VERY intriguiging pics.

I have three wonderful children whom I love deeply. I have a beautiful golden retriever whom I consider my fourth child-Rosie.

I cried at "Titanic." I cried at "E.T." I cried at "Ole Yeller, " and boo-hooed at "Where the Red Fern Grows," I sobbed at "Schindler's List" and most certainly at "Saving Private Ryan."

I laughed hysterically at "Borat." I love Beavis and Butthead. I adore South Park. And like ANY TRUE DAD, I secretly enjoy SpongeBob Squarepants.

Oh, and I LOVE our Wii! We don't have it, but Rock Band 2 totally ROCKS! LOL!

So, you see, I'm just like YOU. Or at least a LOT like YOU.

I have the same wants, needs and desires as you(See I told I watch Dr. Phil! LOL )

I could go on and on just trying to give you a little insight into the essence of me.


I LOVE to read. While other men routinely hit the gym or track or court or field, I instead exercise my BRAIN.

So, I say again, if you are looking for a stud-boy with Pitt-like looks and the obligatory "six pack abs" with a matching Neanderthal-like (cough) appreciation of women then HE is here somewhere. He won't be hard to find.

I am SO NOT THAT GUY! LOL!

I'm just me. And I hope that is enough.

Thanks again for reading my profile and you and yours have a wonderful week/weekend!

As an ADDENDUM: I have decided to add this last part to address a few things I keep observing on POF : Get ready for some reality here...

To those of you who say "I don't do drama, NO DRAMA, drama not allowed"...I say BS! I may be a good guy but I also have a brain. That is a total cop out. EVERYONE who is on POF or any other site has seen their fair share of DRAMA. Drama informs us in our lives, shapes our character and gives us strength to carry on. So go on living in your fantasy world. Drama is a part of the human experience. Good luck finding a "drama free" life. Ain't gonna happen.

As for what constitutes a REAL MAN? Hell if I know. I sure would like to know.

First, I would hope we would expand our communication to "real" email, online chat/instant messaging or even cell phone conversations. POF is neat but very inconvenient. That way we could get a better sense of each other and discuss our initial meeting in detail.

While I am game for a movie and dinner, I have come to realize that like some of you all say on POF that is not exactly conducive to actually getting to KNOW someone-especially the movie part! LOL!

If you desire something a bit less mundane, we could go bowling or even go to REAL haunted house and do some "ghost hunting."

I love to visit Antebellum houses. I love history and historical places.

I love to fish. I love sports.

Rest assured when WE are comfortable with each other we will find something we both want to do. I believe a successful relationship MUST have two-way communication. As such, I will most likely settle on something we BOTH agree on.

I almost flunked Chemistry in college but I do realize that plays a big part in attraction.

I want to look in your eyes at the end of the date and KNOW that somehow we have made a connection- that we are indeed friends!