I want to be real and honest about who I am and what I'm looking for. It's better to know these things early on, don't you think? I‘m looking for a long-term committed relationship. Someone to grow old with – or maybe more realistically, someone to stay young with. I’m open to marrying again, but it’s not a requirement. (I know my profile might be a bit long to some, but if you would like me to respond to your email, please be able to demonstrate that you've invested the few minutes it takes to read it and possess the things I'm looking for. Honestly, "Hey, how are you?" does little to attract my attention. My apologies, I get too many emails to answer them all, especially those that are clearly "just fishing".)

WHAT I’M WILLING TO GIVE:
- Love, affection, adoration, support and loyalty.
- Appreciation and admiration for who you are and what you do.
- Space/Freedom to do your own things, have your own friends, enjoy your own activities.
- Understanding, respect, and support for your mission and vision in life.
- A safe, loving sanctuary for you to come home to. A place where you can put down your sword and rest in peace and in my arms.
- Respect and understanding of you as a man and your masculine traits, and the differences between us.
- Active, engaged, and compassionate listening.
- Playfulness.
- Stand by you as your partner rather than adversary.
- Open communication without criticism, complaint or blame.
- The occasional dinner cooked for you even though I’m not terribly fond of cooking. :-)

WHAT I’M HOPING (LONGING) TO GIVE:
- Lots of loving touch…a stroke on your arm, a hug around your neck from behind, a gentle kiss on the tip of your ear….
- Empowerment and inspiration...to inspire you to be the best and highest expression that you dream of for yourself.
- Sexual exploration and play. How about spending all day in bed?
- Making love 24/7 through looks, touch, and the intensity of our connection.
- Little gifts - notes, email, sending you love songs - that express my love and devotion to you.
- The sensuality, radiance, beauty, and warmth that comes from embodying my feminine essence.

(Note: Many of these things will not be evident on our first dates. These are my gifts reserved to be given to My Man in the safety of a committed relationship.)

WHAT I WANT TO RECEIVE:
- To be cherished, treasured, and adored by you.
- Your time and attention. I like to know you’re thinking of me and I’m important in your life. (My "Love Language" is quality time and physical touch)
- Steadfast loyalty.
- Lots of loving touch. PDA is great too!
- Appreciation, admiration, and respect for who I am and what’s important to me.
- Attraction to my body just as it is.
- A good listener and can listen when I just need “to talk”.
- Open communication without criticism, complaint or blame.
- The willingness to listen non-defensively to my needs.
- A consistent connection with you. A phone call, an email, a text – to say you’re thinking of me, etc. Especially in the first months of our relationship.
- Respect and understanding of me as a woman and my feminine traits, even though they are different from yours.

WHAT I’M HOPING (WOW THAT WOULD BE REALLY GREAT!) TO RECEIVE:
- A willingness to know me deeply.
- Sexual and sensual exploration and play (see above). Learning about spiritual sexual practices (Tantra, etc.)
- Attending spiritual or personal growth seminars with me, or reading books together.
- The strength, protection, safety and support that comes from you embodying your masculine essence.
- Love to cook would be icing on the cake! :-)

(Of course all these things are the desired end result of entering into a long-term relationship! Not really as relevant when just dating to see if there's a reason to continue. :-))

MUST HAVES (READ DEAL-BREAKERS):
- Someone who is on a spiritual/personal growth path similar to mine
- Emotionally healthy, having done some inner work to get yourself there.
- Have the skills to communicate in an open, honest way without blame.
- Non-smoker.
- No substance addictions (ok, Diet Coke doesn’t count!)
- Must be emotionally available, over past relationships, and available and ready to enter into a committed long-term relationship.
- Prefer you don't have small children unless you're of Dahli Lama quality, then I might reconsider. :-)

So what about you? What are you looking for? What are you willing to provide and wanting to receive?

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION: Adjectives to describe me: Happy, warm, romantic, open, sensual, intelligent, confident, spiritual, insightful, joyful, playful, passionate, great sense of humor. My life is drama-free, as much as life can be. I have two unbelievable kids, a career I love, deep abiding friendships, a good parenting relationship with my ex, and a loving supportive family. I surround myself with people who are positive and have a great love for life. I am a certified Life Coach, and love the idea of helping others to create a life they love!

NOTE: My spirituality (call it New Thought or New Age) is an important part of my life, as well as the context or lens through which I view my life and everything in it, including my relationships. It is a high priority, if not the highest, to have a man who is of like mind. If you are not on a spiritual path and interested in growing as a person, we probably wouldn't be a good match! My thoughts are in line with The Secret, A Course in Miracles, and authors like Walsch, Tolle, Ruiz, Chopra, Dyer, and Deida. If you haven't heard of them or follow them or something similar, then we probably aren't aligned. If you contact me please let me know you are on a similar page spiritually,that will save us both some time. Thank you! ***Some have taken this as a challenge to their own spiritual beliefs. I honor whatever path you choose to God - or not - and everyone has a right to live and believe how they choose. I respect that right wholeheartedly. I also have the right to want a man in my life that shares my beliefs so we can live them together, grow in them together, and participate in them together. My beliefs are that important to me, and this is my choice for how I want to live my life.***

I'm open to a wide variety of activities. Spending time with people I enjoy is the top priority. What we're doing doesn't matter. It is the "being", rather than the "doing" that matters to me.