*After only 5 minutes of joining this site, I received many e-mails and IMs asking to meet up. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE read my file first before contacting me so a lot of redundancy can be avoided. Thank you. Many of you that contacted me probably would not have done so had you read about me.


I don't want a boyfriend right off the bat. I want to start out as friends and maybe that can grow into something else. No pressure on either one of us. You don't have to be scared to take a chance on me. I answer almost every e-mail I get on here, but it really helps when you can write/spell English words that you are typing to me.

I put smoke occasionally because all my exes have been smokers. I take a drag or two off their cig and get a buzz. Weak, I know, but I don't even smoke whole cigs.

MY MATCH would be someone who...


-has a LOT of patience
-can give and take sarcasm
-will hold me safe in their arms
-is okay with being a goofball sometimes and will let me do the same
-is okay with "bigger" girls...semantics...I am "full-figured" (I'm actually under 200 lbs...does that help you?)
-is VERY local to Golf Mill Mall/Lutheran General Hospital or doesn't mind the drive
-is nice to people, knows how to say "please" and "thank you"
-wouldn't find it childish to play in a park once in a while
-truly cares about me
-will listen to my stories and share his stories with me
-can make his day a story, not just answer "work was fine" (I like details)
-can handle staying up late at night sometimes
-will talk to me on the phone while I lie in bed trying to get tired enough to sleep
-is not too macho to call me and let me know when he misses me
-will eventually let go and be okay with crying in front of me, even if I am never allowed to admit it happened to anyone else
-will not turn me away if I start to cry
-will share his secrets with me and be a safe haven for mine
-has some book smarts AND street smarts
-is into monogamy, polys need not apply, sorry
-has the ability to make me feel comfortable and at ease with him
-will call me when he says he will and show up when he said he would
-doesn't mind that I have a bad singing voice, will still let me sing in the car with the radio
-thinks I'm funny at least every 25 statements I make?
-can fit even half of these descriptions
-won't take advantage of the power he may obtain over me
-will appreciate that power
-is willing to teach me what he knows but I do not know yet
-is capable of loving me
-will be there for me and let me be there for him
-is not afraid to stand up to his friends
-is not afraid to stand up to me
-understands that sometimes when it's hot outside, sitting on a swing and blowing bubbles with those colorful ruffle-circled wands can be very nostalgic
-will appreciate me and be able to notice "the little things"
-ever wanted to grab a girl's attention by throwing a rock at her window like they do in the movies
-will have time to spend together with me
-is older than me (22) so 23 and up would be nice
-knows how to take the lead every now and then
-thinks about me at times when he is not even with me in person
-will let me cuddle with him, especially when I am cold
-is quick-witted
-isn't going to hit me when he gets mad
-wants to find me just as bad as I want to find him
-doesn't get bored easily
-is creative and open-minded in various ways
-wants me to be myself and wants to be able to show me his true self
-holds the door for the person behind him or sometimes in front
-wants to be the one who gives me chills (in a good way) when his name comes up on my cell phone caller ID
-doesn't drop off the face of the earth for weeks at a time
-is taller than me (5'4 and a half) so around 5'6 and up
-likes animals or at least dogs.
-will play board games with me once in a while (Scrabble? Jenga? Scattergories?)
-was actually interested in reading all of these wants/needs of mine and is STILL interested in me

First date plans really depend on the guy I am meeting and what they would like to do as well. I'm kind of used to dating men who don't have a lot of money/a job so I'm open to possibilities. My previous "first dates" range from walking around a mall to going and donating blood. What do *you* want to do?