Hi ladies, this is my quest to find someone out there who is dynamic, outgoing, likes to laugh and experience life to it's fullest. I'm a well-rounded and open-minded guy who's looking to meet someone for fun friendship and a possible life partner. You are independent in your opinions and attitudes, confident, proactive and goal oriented. You’re also someone who has a positive attitude and is reciprocal and honest in her pursuit of intimacy. I'm comfortable with reality and honest, open communication. To me, romance is not only the media depiction of an infatuation with sentimentality, but rather the subtle expressions of love and attentiveness of 2 partners as demonstrated by the little, simple, day to day things. I’m looking to find someone new who stimulates me on many levels. I have a considerable amount of life experience and no emotional baggage or bad habits. An intelligent woman once told me that the sexiest thing about a man is if he has his act together (most people don’t). I’m working toward that level. I'm switching careers and starting out is always hard work while juggling with meeting new people. I'll try my best to answer all messages and make a genuine effort to connect. I'm certain that the right girl is out there. My first criteria is the chemistry between us, or the "social intercourse" and I'm not necessarily looking for a trophy, but someone who can compliment my talents and tastes. I've been told I'm introspective with a high EQ and SQ (Emotional Quotient & Spiritual Quotient) ie. I'm easy to talk to and confide in while unabashed to speak in terms of reality. I prefer not to analyze others and understand full well that all our lives and experiences are vastly different and that we all have equally different but still valuable contributions to make to each other. A surprise to some women on here is my uncanny sense of honesty that many guys seem to struggle with. The reality in my life is far more interesting than any BS I could make up.

In addition, I feel the need to mention that I'm getting several messages from ambitious females looking to obtain their "MRS." as a valuable addition to their asset portfolio. I'm starting a new career and my income may not impress these such diggers of Yellow shiny metal. My potential for career excellence is unlimited. Sorry to disappoint, but it's best if we don't waste each others time. Another mention worthy fact is that I'm not interested in a relationship that's inconvenient and requires a great deal of logistical nurturing and creative effort to spend time alone together, at least at this point in life (ie. unreasonable distance from the GTA or someone who lives with their strict parents, or kids/I don't have my own so it feels awkward/However I wouldn't let that stop true love) I'm not sure if I'm ready to accept these additional challenges to building a new relationship with someone. Notwithstanding, if you should strongly feel that your particular situation is exceptional in any regard, please don't hesitate to inform me otherwise.

I want to take a brief moment to elaborate on EQ and SQ:
In today's fast-changing world, materialism and stress have become part of our everyday lives. We are constantly looking for answers: How to live a successful and happy life?
One way of finding out answers to this question could be to explore the Spiritual Quotient (SQ), relating to our ability to understand and comprehend the spiritual aspects of life, which, contrary to popular belief, are not necessarily connected to religion.
Most of us are familiar with the concept of the Intelligence Quotient (IQ).
In the mid ‘90s, Daniel Goleman started talking about EQ or Emotional Quotient. Danah Zoher and Ian Marshal in their recent work SQ: Connecting with our Spiritual Intelligence observe that "While computers have IQ and animals can have EQ, it is essentially an SQ that sets human beings apart". Therefore, for the ‘Wheel of Life' to roll smoothly, all the spokes of the wheel - IQ, EQ and SQ - have to be equally developed. The journey from IQ to SQ represents moving from gross to subtle, finite to infinite and from tangible to intangible.
SQ has several dimensions: Compassion, wholeness, self-esteem, gratitude, spirit of surrender, service and the ego. Handling the ego is one of the critical dimensions of enhancing SQ. Ego issues, if not handled with care, can create problems in our personal, social and professional lives. Hence for better relationships, it is very important to understand and handle the ego - both of ‘self' and others. Dr. Steven Covey is another favorite of mine as his book "The Seven Habits of Highly successful people" sets the stage for how we should lead a better quality of life.

Some things I look for in a significant other:
• She is emotionally and spiritually strong with a set of principles that guide her life and decisions like the true North on a compass.

• She is my equal with no gender role expectations.

• She is someone I can effectively plan and discuss day to day goals with, and execute them like an efficient team.

• She is financially responsible and makes sensible decisions that we can agree upon together. I have fine tastes but don’t think that spending a small fortune on something that is not investment grade is very sensible. In the end it’s not how much money we earn that makes the difference in our lives but rather how we choose to allocate those resources. Remember, a new BMW is a sign of how much someone spent, and not how much someone earned.

• She is someone whom I can produce “synergy” with, meaning that 1+1 = 3. Much like a Gestalt in Psychology (the result is greater than the sum of it’s parts).

• The healthiest relationships are formed through a true “interdependence”. This meaning that the two persons are independent both emotionally and financially so that they can really create something greater and more effective than they can alone.

• She is kind to everyone, and can really work the room at a party for example, charming, witty, understanding, and an empathic listener, but at the same time, is taken seriously by others and has a reputation for integrity and fortitude.

• I’m a sucker for romantic moments too, so she’s the kind of girl whom I can embrace with a passionate kiss in the pouring rain. We can spend days together and never have a fight. We can make love again and again and again and always reach new heights of eroticism. Someone I can laugh with endlessly like a child and be silly with.

• Someone I can trust and confide in, someone who is my most important adviser, as well as someone who deserves to have the last word on decisions and discussions. Conflicts are always resolved through a third and superior alternative that satisfies both persons needs.

• She’s the woman for whom I would drop everything I’m doing right now, if she was suffering

FIRST DATE

Option (1)
Perhaps a first date would be over dinner in a quiet setting so we may have the opportunity to share experiences and share a deeper understanding of the world around us. +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

Option (2)
One of my old favorites was taking a first date out to live comedy theater, and sitting together in the front row. This makes us a prime target for the comic on stage and has a
tendency to produce some funny-embarrassing-surprising energy!

Option (3)
Lastly, another alternative would be YOU and I naked in a Jacuzzi with 2 Glasses of Wine, good conversation, full body massage afterward, and we'll see where that leads us......that way we can both see what's under the hood and break the ice to jump-start things! LOL

"Time is too slow for those who wait,
too swift for those who fear,
too long for those who grieve,
too short for those who rejoice,
but for those who love,
time is eternity."

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, Cleveland , Ohio
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheque
10. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
16. The most important sex organ is the brain
17.. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
33. Believe in miracles.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
42. The best is yet to come.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

In conclusion, the woman whom I choose to share time and space with will be the solution to my life's challenges and the expediter of my endeavors.