If you're kind enough to have a wee looksee at my profile, then just say "Hi".

Okay, I have absolutely no idea what my "Looking For" bit should say. Long Term? Dating? Friends First? I am looking for someone for Long Term, but that doesn't mean to say that undying love is going to be declared on a first date. And nor am I about to date half a dozen women at a time. Naturally, it's important to know if you "gel" before entering into anything serious, but putting "Friends" or "Dating" seemed a bit shallow. Bored yet? No? Then please read on.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Unlike most of the men on these sites, I’m not here to find sex, but actually a long-term, caring relationship.

I have been told by every one of my large amount of close friends, that I am caring, un-judgmental, even tempered, funny, considerate, cultured, honest, loyal, trustworthy, intelligent, a good father to my cats, a thorough gentleman – a good egg all round, and I pride myself in it.

I have to be fit for what I do, so I am in really great shape. I eat healthy, and I have about one glass of red wine a fortnight.(Like Robert Burns, I can’t handle alcohol - so I don't drink). Family, in my eyes, comes first and I will guarantee that my home is full of consideration and love.

I don't meet a lot of people in my line of work, which is why I'm here, But if you would like to start to talk with me, you will find there are some men who don’t mind cooking, ironing, washing up, give you space, listen to you without offering advice, will notice you when you’ve had your hair done, and buy you chocolates and flowers at that “special” time of the month. And also that when a woman says "No" she means "No".

I'm NOT an aberdonian, so conversations relating to; football, darts, money, other women, cars, and how much they had to drink last night, are definitely off the agenda.

So, what else makes me different to all the other guys on these sites? Well, I'm not tarnished by the break up of a previous LTR, so there's no chance of me downloading all night about previous relationships. I'll actually listen to you and ask sensible questions

My Ideal partner, well, I think it's almost impossible to describe that, as sometimes you have an idea in your head about what they should look like, then someone comes along who blows you away, but all I look for in a partner is; A) A good heart; B) even temper; C) a kind face.

I suppose my one real stipulation about my ideal partner is; because I like to look after myself, I also expect that in a partner. I don't mean an underwear model dressed in Versace all the time, but I do expect my partner to have a little respect for the way she looks.

Oh yeah, and a big P.S. Can anyone please tell me the difference between "Dating" and "Long Term" on this website, because there's either a commitment, or there isn't.

If I don't appeal to you, then Good luck in your quest to find true happiness.

Love, S.x

P.S. Just finished reading "Why men don't listen and woman can't read maps" by psychologists, Alan and Barbera Pease. Ahhh! It's all so clear now! The world is a better place!!

For a first date, I think that I would take her to dinner at a beautiful little Italian restaurant I frequent where the music is soft and ambient, followed by a visit to a very exclusive underground comedy club where the atmosphere is friendly and relaxing and they have live music and dancing. Then a carriage-ride through the park and to the beach, with champagne chilling in a pewter bucket of ice, then finally, arrive at the lighthouse to gaze throught the windows at the sea and stars. Failing that, a movie, a boogie, and a bag of chips on the way home!