I was on here a few months ago, got frustrated and left. Now I'm back with a bit more focus and determination not to get frustrated. Good things come to those who re-bait....

I am an independent woman who really loves to laugh and learn new things - and is finally tired of being single. At first I was tempted to write minimally about myself, figuring nothing beats the real thing... But then I rethought and concluded that maybe I was frustrated before because I painted myself in too-broad brush strokes. Maybe that's why out of the 200 ppl who contacted me, only 10 interested me at all, and I only talked to 2.

I think it's fairly safe to assume that if I use certain terms to describe myself and my wants, I'm looking for someone with very similar attributes and desires...


Basically: I'm confident, fun-loving, well-rounded and outgoing. The rest you'll see pretty quickly when you meet me, since I'm also genuine and do not play games. I'm a runner and yoga enthusiast. I also love wine, trivia games and relaxing. Travelling excites me. So does an amazing book. I do not like fishing, UFC, wrestling or video games. I will respect your right to enjoy these activites alone or in reasonable doses while I read or amuse myself with my own life.

I especially enjoy great conversation with people who have something to say, without fear of debate or differing opinions. I do an impression of Marge seducing Homer but I tend to share this selectively - will you bring out the silly/wicked side of me? I hope so.

You should also be confident, a bit of a flirt and outgoing (dare I say charming?). I like a man's man, but will take it as a very good sign if you have female friends, too. I'm not normally shy so I especially appreciate a man who can make me blush - as long as you're not embarrassing either of us; it's a fine art which is why I appreciate it so much. A physical attraction and compatability are just as important as anything else; I can't pretend they're not. In all honesty, I'd rather you make me weak in the knees than make me dinner. If you do both: hallelujah! But if you can't then I'm only so fond of dinner. Just so you know.

I want amazing sex, romance, laughter, friendship, teamwork, and passion, and really great sex. Oh. I said that already. But in having emphasized that, it doesn't mean I'm easy or desperate. I'm neither. I'm candid about something I think is crucial to a relationship. I need for that chemistry and compatability to be there, or I won't be..... I will not forget that I was totally upfront about this from the start. And the romance, laughter, friendship, teamwork and passion are not negotiable either - they're the ingredients to a deeper bond as well. Are you wishing me good luck yet? I'm saying I can bring all of this. I'm telling you that I know I can. I'm not about settling and I hope you're not either!


I'm looking for a relationship that makes me learn new things about myself and the world, and one that makes me feel sexy, alive and special. Happy. I will bring the same to your table if it's a good match...Do I really need to say I want someone honest, sincere, and with minimal sociopathic attributes? Ok: so stated. But that means just what it means: you can be honest about being a jerk, sincere about being capricious, as long as you're not pathologically demented and/or always ONLY an apathetic jerk. I prefer a bit of edge and depth, layers!, over "I love life and live every day to the fullest with my family and pets"...I have family, I have a cat (I am not its mother, it is not my baby, I do not carry photos, and I will likely never mention it again) but they aren't my life's complete fulfillment.


I try to ascribe to the whole "life is what you make it" philosophy. I try to be a "if the glass has anything in it at all, be grateful" kind of person. I try to be objective and fair-minded. And usually I succeed and enjoy a good amount of contentment and pleasure from life, work and friendships. However! I get easily annoyed with idiots and poor manners, so I'm not all roses and sunshine since the world is filled with both. Let's join forces to make fun of these things - and ourselves...


So, if you've read this and think you want to get in touch please do. I have limited patience with this forum and I am not a huge fan of IM. If you email me, please include at least one question for me; it's hard to know how to respond to "hi, you're cute/interesting/beautiful; we should chat". Not that I'm impervious to flattery...but if we're going to chat, do some heavy lifting and come up with something to chat about. I promise to reciprocate. (If I contacted you first, you can see I asked you a few questions) However, if I have to do all the thinking, I'm going to get bored. Immediately. After we exchange an email or two, we should probably talk; and after we talk, we should probably meet. Assuming the interest is there... If this intimidates you (the concept of actually meeting) or you're more comfortable in cyberworld, please know we're not a good match and you should re-bait that hook and move on...

I know I come across as pretty exacting and blunt in this profile...I'm hoping something I said, or the way I said it, will resonate with you. I'm hoping my honesty and self-expression will find common ground in you...

Thanks for reading and happy fishing!

PS: don't be intimidated; I'm actually a nice, friendly person who is empathetic, interested in others and listens as much as she speaks. I have even been known to do charity work, volunteer and hold a friend's hand in an hour (or several) of need. I am loyal, thoughtful, considerate and generous. (My best friend told me to put this in here; she said I forgot to mention the things she loves about me) Sometimes I find it hard to say nice things about myself, but I'm never at a loss to praise a loved one or demonstrate my affection.... I AM the complete package. I am constantly asked "why are you single??!!??". I hate this question....help me to eradicate it from my life. Please.

For a first date? I'd probably prefer something casual and something fun...something that would take some pressure off and make the whole "getting to know you" thing a little less intense. I can laugh at myself, so maybe we could play pool, go bowling or try some mini-golf since I'm rather unskilled at all of these things and yet love the opportunity to practice! I'll try new things if you have a favourite activity/sport/hobby that you'd like to share with a newbie? I am looking to date, but if we click then let's see where we might go?