Clarification :

I have received some feedback suggesting that I am either jaded, bitter or excessively negative based on the following profile. That would be a gross mischaracterization of the facts. I will attempt to set the record straight. I am neither bitter nor jaded and certainly not negative as some suggest. Just as some of you ladies have experienced less than stellar results on dates, or come across strange or rude people; you have little desire to repeat these events. As such, we all seek to avoid and/or not revisit these unfortunate experiences. After all, it is only the stupid people in this world that continually repeat the same behavior or action and expect a different result.

The following profile is an attempt to avoid past pitfalls and move forward into a more positive and constructive path. It is in that vein that I detail and enumerate some of the less desirable traits that I wish to avoid. It is my hope that those that fall into those categories will be self aware enough to recognize it and not waste their time or mine.

I do hope this clarifies the objective of my profile. I do intend to update it as time goes by so stay tuned.

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Okay, I have been on here for a few weeks now so I suppose I am no longer new to Internet dating. So far I am less than impressed with the results. The reality of it is that it is confirming my original assessment of online dating.

Having said all that, I am hoping that some of you might help me with a few questions I have regarding Internet dating:

1. Is it mandatory that drama be a part of Internet dating?
2. Are mind games a necessary ritual?
3. Is honesty a lost and forgotten principle?
4. Is common courtesy no longer common?
5. Must people remain jaded by bad experiences?
6. Must we be obsessed with age?
7. Must we be obsessed with Height?
8. Does be yourself mean anything anymore?
9. Does anyone remember that if you make a promise, you should honor it?
10. Does be yourself mean anything anymore?
11. If you have found someone, shouldn’t you remove your ad or make it unsearchable?
12. Is automatically blocking someone that said hello to you because you are not interested in necessary?


I know that these questions appear to be negative, but I am unaccustomed to these things being issues in my daily life. I know that this is an imperfect world and we are all imperfect beings but lets not abuse the privilege.

Lets start with something simple like, saying what we mean and meaning what we say. Is that so hard?

I love interacting with people from all walks of life. I don’t require that you agree with me on everything. In fact, I like a woman that has a mind of her own and does not agree with me all the time. I do not like always preaching to the choir as they say. I like a woman to just be herself and be totally open about what her hopes, dreams, desires, likes and dislikes. Likewise, I expect that a woman be broad minded enough to accept my opinions, my hobbies, interests as well as my likes and dislikes without being petty or judgmental.

I am also not completely ridged on my objectives here. I have in the past while seeking an LTR, found myself in different types of relationships. While an LTR is what my main objective continues to be, I do not shun other possibilities. In essence, I am seeking what is possible. Lets face it, you could hit it off with someone but your schedules don’t sync up, or other circumstances that could be temporary may block certain possibilities. That is no reason to just casually discard someone or kick them to the curb. What is key is to have open communication and honesty. The rest will take care of itself.

Along with all that I have mentioned, please be a warm and affectionate person with a good sense of humor. Let me repeat this for all you humorless women out there…….. Please be a warm and affectionate person with a good sense of humor.

If you are cold and distant, have issues with intimacy or think snuggling is a euphemism for sex, please move on. I am also not seeking a perpetual lets be friends arrangement. It is true that we can always use friends, but lets be honest ladies, many of you use the “lets be friends” cliché one too many times. I am seeking a special lady that will be someone I share many things with including intimacy. If this is a problem, please move on.

Let me Clarify “Friends” for the truth impaired, the following are some things to consider before you say “lets be friends”:

1. Will you come pick me up in the middle of the night in the middle of nowhere if I am stranded?
2. If I am experiencing a particularly rough time, will you try to console me?
3. If for some misfortune I find myself coming up short to pay my electric bill or fix my car, will you help out?
4. If you have a particularly useful skill or talent, with you use it to help me if I need your help?
5. Will you come visit me if I end up in the hospital?

If you answer No to any of these questions; do us both a favor and refrain from the tired “lets be friends” line.

Please be someone into open communication. Just trading e-mails is not conducive to true communication. If you are not open to instant messaging of some kind, or conversing on the phone, please move on. I do respect privacy issues and safety concerns but in the end, we all have to take a chance and take calculated risks in order to get to know someone. This means risking emotional capital and giving up the anonymity afforded by the Internet.

Finally, don’t let the profile lead you to believe that I am uptight or unyielding. I am very laid back and down to earth. I simply seek a drama free, honest and passionate relationship. Feel free to contact me if you want to know more, have questions or just want to say hello. You never know, that first step may start a long and wonderful journey, don’t be shy. Thank you for stopping by.