07/09/09 It's been awhile since I updated here. This is what I had:
"I just got a scottie puppy so I'm pretty busy with him. I read alot, I write. Just about to start a small business. I'm pretty busy, but I would like to make time for someone special."

Let me make up for too little for too long:
Well, the puppy is now a doggy--and only MOSTLY scottie... breeder lied to me, but I love my dog anyway--and he has two brothers (my sis gave up her dogs). I still read a lot. My small business, ShinyPen, survived it's first year, and is doing okay! I'm paying the bills with all the business writing I do for it--blogs, articles, etc--and the fiction is still a semi-pro hobby. One day I will switch those two. Big news though: my business novel--my first novel--is at the printer's and will be out there in a few weeks! I'm very stoked about that.

I'm still busy, but as a writer, that means something different. I.e. late mornings, lot's of lounging around, but then hours-long stretches of concentrated work, late late nights, and the occasional staring off into space. However, my schedule does my bidding and I make it dance for me.

...Still haven't found that special someone to free up time for though.

Also in the past few months, I moved into a nice house (rental) with my sister in Fort Worth proper. She is moving out in the next few weeks, so for the first time ever, I will personally have a guest room. How cool is that? It's a great house, I've got a big room in the back for my office, nice yard for the dogs... I love it.

Even as I am comfortable with ambivalence and grey areas, I believe that many things are black and white issues. I try to stay in the white. I've got a wide sense of humor--from wordplay to dirty to silly--and I like the status quo to be fun, happy, and full of laughter. I've had more than several people's quotas of drama, and now I avoid it like the plague. (Well, other people's drama is okay... fun to watch!)

Don't take this as arrogance, just stating facts: I'm smart, bright, and intelligent (three different things), talented, often underestimated--and I like that, and loyal to those that deserve it. I'm not an A-hole, I'm not a doormat... I'm a good guy. I treat the woman I'm with like a princess, in thought and deed, and with people in general I'm nice and polite. But, A-holes, beyotchy exes, people with bad manners, bad parents, line-cutters, jerks, etc.: I have no patience for, no smile, no quarter, and if pushed too far--not to worry, it's a long distance--I have no mercy.

In other words, I want to be happy, have those around me happy. Mean people suck, and for their own good, should stay away from me.

Oh, and I've never cheated. I have been cheated on. It sucks. I don't do the whole break up/make up thing. A girl betrays what we have, I'm done, completely. The one time I did give a second chance, it backfired so spectacularly that... heh, well it's a funny story now. If we become an item, I'll gladly entertain you with it!

Oh yeah, I'm a storyteller. I create mood, set tone, paint the background, tell you about the emotions and lead-up... well, my stories can be long. Though, I only do that with people that like 'em like that.

That special someone... well, it's not so much that I'm picky, it's more along the lines of I know what kind of woman fits me, what kind of personality meshes with mine. I know what makes me happy, and a big part of that is the ability to make her happy--and vice versa; it's a cycle of happiness.

In a nutshell, I'm looking for a woman who is:
Kind, loyal, sweet, giving.
But also strong inside, assured, confident, bright.
Knows to avoid things that cause problems for her. (and me)
She is not a mouse, not a beyotch (especially if she thinks beyotchiness is a GOOD quality!)
Has interests, is willing to include me, is okay if they're not for me. And vice versa.
Is okay to spend lots of time together, is okay to spend time apart.
Can be polite and comfortable at a dinner party or dive bar.
Is attracted to me physically, mentally, and emotionally.. you know, really likes me!

And I like her as well (obviously). Both the inside and outside of a woman is important to me. In other words, I have to be mesmerized by her personality and beauty. I want to be proud to have her on my arm, but more importantly, I want to be proud of who she is, what she says, and what she does. I guess what I'm saying is, I want to always evaluate myself to be sure that I'm worthy--inside and out--to have this person who amazes me choose to spend her time with me... and I'd like those feelings to be mutual.

Well, that's the romantic writer in me leaking out. Hopefully not too mushy or long.

Then again, if you didn't like any of the above, we probably wouldn't work out, eh?

First dates are to see if we want other dates. We'll go to a quiet, comfy, hopefully cool place--cool as in neat, but right now in the summer, cool as in COLD--where we can spend an hour or so enjoying each others company, talking, feeling each other out, (heh, not feeling each other UP), and seeing if we have chemistry, that spark.

Coffee place, coffee/bookstore place, 24hr diner, quiet bar, something like that.

Don't want a one-night-stand or anything really on a first date--complicated enough just getting to know a stranger. And if there IS a spark, who wants to screw that up?!

If everything is popping and there's chemistry out the wazoo, a kiss might be in order... lady's option.