My muggle name is Ed and I believe it is simply more fun and more satisfying to have someone to share life with. To me that means having some things in common, some things to teach each other and some things to pursue separately. It means being able to lead, follow, negotiate and compromise. But mostly it means walking hand in hand thru the things that life will surely throw at us.

Expectations are the single cause of disappointments. I try to avoid having too many expectations and to accept people and life for what they are, not what I want them to be. I believe that if you can't laugh at yourself, you're not paying close enough attention to what you're doing. My aspiration is to "live happily ever after, every now and then". Sometimes things being 'good enough' is the best we can ask. But to quote Frank Zappa - "It's f**king great to be alive!!"

My most unique feature - I have two different colored eyes - one blue and one brown. I have other relatively unique qualities that are best shown and not told.

Spiritually I describe myself as a generic pagan. I am not group affiliated in my beliefs. If you also share a nature based spirituality that would be a big plus. Otherwise I am pretty accepting of other's spiritual beliefs and practices. However having judgmental and self righteous religious beliefs is definitely a turnoff. I also have some strong Buddhist influences. Perhaps you are a witch or just witchy. As long as you can bewitch me it really doesn't matter!

I like being outdoors and the sense of wonderment that comes with helping mother nature out. I'm somewhat elfish by nature and enjoy the magical moments in life. I love to dance and to watch dancers. I can waltz. I don't line dance. I like to camp, hike in the redwoods, explore tide pools or sit and watch the waves come in. Tie-dyes and blue jeans look good on everybody. Interestingly enough I am comfortable in a suit and tie as well. I'm an omnivore. I put the toilet seat down. I like to explore. I hate airports.

I am open to many things in life and am not normally afraid to broaden my perceptions of who I am and what I enjoy. I admit that I am in some transition in life right now. That could be a good thing for any new relationship as I am very open to learning new pleasures and rediscovering old ones. I could benefit from having someone in my life to remind each other to have more fun! I just might fit right into that great life you already have.

Music has been an important thing in my life although I haven't payed as much attention to it in recent years. I worked in the music/entertainment industry when I was younger. I like a lot of different styles. My favorite bands/artists are The Grateful Dead (and related bands), Jimi Hendrix, Little Feat, Jimmy Buffet, Fleetwood Mac, Frank Zappa and The Who. I listen to classic rock, acid rock, metal, reggae and I really love jazz/world music.

Probably best to just be clear that I am not a financially successful man. I am financially stable with a benefited part-time union job that I enjoy. I make enough to get by most of the time and in this economy that isn't likely to change soon. Friendship and chemistry are important to me in finding a new relationship but money isn't. What I'll have to spend with you is time. And that's also all I'll ask from you. I am more interested in finding the elusive emotional security. I am very loyal once I've been given reason to be.

Some potential downsides are that I have herpes type 2, am in debt for student loans, have teeth that are getting dental work, and am gradually working on that 'thinks he's a lover' hair pattern.

I am not asking to be fixed nor saved and neither am I volunteering to rescue anyone. I just want a hand to hold and arms to hug when the challenges get tough. I will do my own work in changing myself. I will gladly accept encouragement though! I find that I am a happier person when I'm in a good interdependent relationship and allowed to express my positive feelings about the relationship. I am open to eventually relocating pretty much anywhere in the bay area that is still a reasonable commute to my job in the city.

The possibilities of who you are, are endless. The list of who you aren't is much shorter - you are not: selfish, controlling, bossy, republican, judgmental, gossipy, mean, republican, constant gum chewing, lazy, demanding, republican. And you're probably not a strict vegetarian either. At least not so strict you won't kiss me if I've eaten meat! Intelligence and good communication skills are definite turn-ons. Mutual physical attraction is required! That's really something that can't be put into words. It certainly isn't about being physically perfect though. The prettiest faces have some lines in them. A natural touch of gray is becoming. In fact being natural rather than glamorous is much more attractive on any woman.

There is no 'check all that apply' for types of relationships we are looking for. So I should say I am also looking for friends, activity partners, etc. - the more local to me, the better for those relationships. I'm also hoping for something becoming a true life long love and have my hopes that some wonderful woman will desire this with me in the proper time.

About 'favorites' - I keep a very short list. If I add you it is flirting or confirmation that I enjoy some relationship we've already started. If you don't delete yourself from my list, I'll take that as potential interest and contact you soon. If you add me, then please message me or else expect to be removed within a week if there's no communication. I'm not collecting women nor compliments. Quality is far preferable to quantity in relationships.

I am certainly open to women who are interested enough in me to initiate the relationship with first contact. I am attracted to confident women. I've always believed in emotional equality and respect in my relationships. I'm not a judgmental nor jealous person and believe that any worthwhile relationship needs to culminate in friendship no matter how it started. The best relationships almost always start with some sort of mutual attraction. You read this far - are you attracted? Shall we dance?

P.S. - I graduated from Ohio State so I'm a Buckeye!

No coffee dates! What I would do on a first meet/date depends a bit on the other person and their interests. It would have to be interactive and casual. Sharing some time in someplace that has it's own beauty would be a good start. No dressing up is required as I would much rather give and receive impressions of who we really are in life rather than some ideally decorated versions of ourselves. Better to save the special impressions for later.
An important part of being with someone is being able to feel as comfortable with them without saying anything as we are with the words that we share. Even on a first date I don't want either of us to feel like we have to 'entertain' the other.
I really do love to dance and would enjoy a dance date anytime!

Whatever we decide it should be some place we both feel safe & comfortable.