So, It's been a brutal year and now that I'm able to take a couple breaths, it becomes obvious I need to find my balance again – which means I”m not actively seeking that elusive significant other - I'll probably just mess things up anyway.

Really – I'm keeping my profile active the same way I always keep a current resume up on monster.ca - some of the best opportunities seek you out when you're not looking.
And just like that perfect job; while I"m not actively seeking a relationship I am open to the possibility if it falls in my lap – So if something I say resonates with you – hey – knock yourself out – who knows what may happen.


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Some things I've learned from “online dating”

Newbies – if you're new to the whole internet dating thing – There are some definite phases and a learning curve on the journey you are about to embark. You may think to avoid some of those phases - you won't – but good luck.

Meeting new people:

Every time you meet someone you don't find that “chemistry” with – you most likely have found out about something you don't want in a significant other – make note of it – be honest with yourself – those pieces of information are just as important as knowing what you do want.


Don't wait to meet someone - It's seductive and easy to like someone you have made contact with online – The longer you wait to meet them in person, the more you invest emotionally into who you want them to be. In reality - you have no idea who that person really is. The longer you wait to meet them, - the more you will have invest in something that very likely does not exist and be disappointed with how things go.


Handling rejection:

It's easy to become disillusioned and bitter – do not make someone else responsible when reality does not meet your expectations.

The energy you put into making contact with someone ( finding the prefect wording, trying to set the right tone, etc) may barely be a blip your targets radar - be aware that it is easy for someone to ignore you online and be less considerate than they would be in person. That is the nature of the medium through which you have chosen to communicate.

If you feel someone has been inconsiderate in some way - ask yourself why you feel that way. Is it because their behavior did not meet how you wanted them to? Avoid the tendancy to lash out - All the energy you spend in displaying your negative feelings will have absolutely no impact on their life. Their behavior towards you will not change and you can be made to go away with a simple click of the Block Botton.

Don't take things personally – It's easy to feel beat up on this site when people reject you – avoid allowing your sense of self worth to be determined by strangers.


Keep trying:

Every time you meet someone you don't find that “chemistry” with – you most likely have found out about something you don't want in a significant other – make note of it – be honest with yourself – those pieces of information are just as important as knowing what you do want.

Recognize this site for what it is – a tool that allows you to come in contact and communicate with people you would never otherwise encounter. No more and no less.


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When I read profiles – here are a few statements that make me smile

If you're crazy/psychotic/etc – don't contact me. ok – really? Do you find yourself in relationships with psychotic women? Is there a pattern here – could it be you? Maybe she's not psychotic at all - just pissed off and getting creative in her means of retaliation.

My friends tell me I'm a good guy ...– What do your enemies say?

I work in the oil industry, own a truck, like to go quading and hang at the lake... a friend refers to this as an Alberta Special.

Ok – there are lots of others but I've put enough on for now.

Hope you're having a fantastic day and good luck with your search.

Note: If you have added me to your favorite list, but then haven't actually contacted me ever, or in a month of adding me, I will remove myself.

I'm up for platonic dates, but that's it - so conversation will be easy and the night will be entertaining and I will without a doubt go home to my own house - alone.