It seems to be so easy for some, drifting in and out of so called "relationships" without careful thought and deliberation; they so dread the thought of discovering who they really are, that a willingness to subjugate their own identity and perspective are readily adhered to rather than face the prospect of "being alone".

The woman of choice counters this depiction, she is cognizant of both her strengths and weaknesses and embraces them in order to learn and grow. She is not a typical woman, intelligent, introspective, dynamic, a wicked sense of humour, unique in her complexities, she relishes the art of conversation and can appreciate the subtext that life has to offer, but is so often missed.

As one can appreciate there is no list or formula one can employ on this quest, however to be fair, chemistry is that fleeting intangible coupled with our own sense of visual beauty. She inherently values life and the world around her, intellectually sound, passionate, intense at times,"sans" children, slim and healthy.

Some may find her intimidating, confident and unabashedly secure, yet herein lays the paradox, to a precious few she sometimes chooses to reveal herself as a " little girl at heart".

We've both been treading water far too long, swim this way.