Ok, first off I'm sure a lot of you are asking why I am on this site when I have an infant. Well when the baby was about 4 weeks old my husband told me he didn't know if he loved me anymore and a week later when he stayed out all night with another woman, I kicked him out. After 20+ years of marriage there is just too much water under the bridge to fix the foundation if you know what I mean! However we get along as best we can for the babies sake. I have the baby 99% of the time so you can't handle this then pass me on by because I am a package deal. You can't have me without accepting my baby.

If you don't like tattoos on a woman then count me out cause I have one and plan on getting another in the next few months!!!

For my kids safety and my own, I do not live in cb, I just put that. I live in a very tiny town where any creepy stalker could find me. I'm the only Candy in town... Before you go any further if you are closer to my daughters age than mine I do not want to date you. She is 20 years old. You do the math. Also if you want kids and think that you could possibly change my mind it's not going to happen cause my tubes were cut, tied and burnt and I just don't think there is any coming back from that if you know what I mean. lol If you have kids great or you want to adopt, that's fine...

I am a laid back person. I'm good natured, I love to laugh and make people laugh. I have a nice personality. I am honest! It's the one trait I must have in someone. I believe you should treat people the way you want to be treated. I usually have a smile planted on my face because I choose to be happy. Sometimes there just ain't nothing you can do about a situation so you might as well laugh about it. I guess you could say that I'm just a simple country girl or farmers daughter if you will.

I have 4 children and one grandchild. Yes, I'm a grandma but I'm far from being old!!! I love spending time with my grandson. I have a 20 year old daughter who lives a block away, an 19 year old daughter who currently lives with me. Unfortunately my son Ryan was killed in a horrible incident, a hit and run a little over 4 years ago. He is forever 10 years old but should be 14 now. (so if you drink all the time and drive don't contact me cause I'd still have my son if someone else would have followed the law) I have accepted his death but miss him like crazy. I also have a beautiful baby boy born February 09. When it ask you if you do drugs and you put no, you do know that's a lie if you still smoke pot or weed or whatever you call it... I don't want anyone who does drugs of any kind. Just being up front on what I do not want so we don't waste eachothers time.

I'm looking for someone who has morals and is honest. I want someone who has "grown up" and doesn't act like an 18 year old anymore, not to say you can't be a kid sometimes. I still like to color and play on the playground. I love amusement parks and all the rides. I am not into the bar scene. I think it's a waste of money and time. Saying that, that does not mean that I won't go to the bar for a drink or two, I'm just not into getting drunk.

The person I am looking for will love kids because I have a few and I enjoy spending time with them. What I am looking for in a guy, I want someone who wants to spend more time with me than he does at the bar or with his friends or playing some sport. That doesn't mean he has to spend every waking hour with me. I don't want him to be controlling, I need my space too just like he does. I have hobbies I'm sure he doesn't want to do and when he's off playing some sport or having a guys night out, I have enough hobbies to entertain myself. I can stay at home by myself, I'm not afraid of the dark, lol. I want someone who can't wait to get home to me and I can't wait for them to get home. I want to be cuddled and loved and kissed and hugged on a daily basis. I want to crave the man I am with the way most women crave chocolate.....:-)

I like to take long walks with someone or by myself, go to the beach, listen to music and dance with my kids while cleaning the house. I like many different types of music, rock, country, pop, alternative rock. I love Nickleback and daughtry and Carrie Underwood and Keith Urban and Enya and Madonna and Lady GaGa and Lady Antebellum and Kid Rock and Hank Williams Jr and yea, my music choices are very broad... Just about anything but not that much into rap.

I like to ride 4 wheelers, fish if you bait my hook and take the fish off it for me. I like to eat the fish too but I will not clean it and will not cook it. I like to talk but I'm a good listener also. Sometimes I like to turn the tv off and just listen to nothing but the birds chirping outside. I like to scrapbook and craft, it's very relaxing. I like to go camping. I love making a fire outside and sitting around it cooking hotdogs and roasting marshmallows, yummy. I love the smell of burning leaves in the fall. Out here in the small towns we can still burn. I love digging in the dirt, planting flowers and landscaping. I'm not afraid to get dirty or get some blisters on my hands.

I love lilacs, they are my favorite flower, roses are over rated. I'd rather get a floral arrangement with different flowers in it any day over roses. If you must buy roses please buy different colors, not just red....red, pink and white r beatiful together or just a single long stem rose is fantastic as well!!! I love any kind of chocolate, Reeses, Snickers, Kit Kat, Baby Ruth, Whatchamacallit, Take 5, Milky Way, 3 Musketeers, Mr Goodbar, geez, I just don't think there is a candy bar that I have met that I don't like.

I'm very sarcastic but in a good way. I'm not mean about it. Fun loving and ornery but in a good way. I love being in love and being loved. If your looking for a cook, I'm not it. I do not enjoy cooking so I do it only occasionally. My specialties are mac and cheese and stouffer's in a box, not to say I can't cook a turkey etc... for thanksgiving because I can and have! One of my favorite meals is roast with potatoes and gravy and I don't mind making that but the day to day cooking is not me. If you cook, I'll clean up. I love pasta, god do I love pasta. I actually don't like steak and wine... I'll take a hamburger over a steak anyday. Favorite restaurants are Quaker Steak and Lube, Ruby Tuesdays, Olive Garden, Lonestar, DQ chicken strips, Subway, Cousin Subs, Cracker Barrel, KFC, hmmm Frazoli's, Machine Shed, yea I'm easy to please

I've done volunteer work and enjoyed it so much, it was so rewarding. I did it full time for 2 1/2 years. I wanted to do foster care but my husband would not go for it. I figure if I have something to offer a child who needs it then why not.

Over the last 20 years I have lived in Key West, FL; Norfolk, VA; Corpus Christi, TX; and Burlington, WI and now I am back where I started, Iowa

Go to a park so we can just walk around and chat or sit on a park bench and chat. A mall so we can people watch. Some of the best dates haven't cost either of us a dime...

I put "socially" under do I drink because the choices were limited. I really hardly drink at all, it probably averages to 1 drink everyother month but I couldn't put never cause that would be lying....