UPDATE: OK girls, Based on some of the responses on here, I thought it would be prudent for me to get somethings straight. I'm 43, look 33 and am more fun than 23. Divorced a girl still in her 20's. This is important so pay close attention: "I DO NOT HAVE A MOMMY OR GRAND MOMMY COMPLEX". I'm no Brad Pitt but I'm a good looking guy. I'm not looking to be anybody's trophy husband. lol Seriously, take a good, long look at yourself and if you've not yet dated someone as attractive as I am, I'm not gonna be your first. I'm always open to friendships but you better put "FRIENDS ONLY" in the subject when you contact me. If not, and you are not attractive, I will delete your message without reading it. I'm not trying to be offensive but COME ON! I'm not looking for a sugarmomma either. You would have to make a whole lot of money for me to even consider it. lol That being said, if you are the CEO of a fortune 500 company you better contact me fast before Obama puts your company out of business. Expediency is essential because your wealth won't last under the current administration. RON PAUL 2012!!! So if you read this update and found it offensive or couldn't laugh, you are probably not for me. Seriousness is the only refuge for the truly shallow. I'm just trying to keep things a little light hearted. We now return you to your regularly scheduled mushy stuff.


You know that feeling you get deep in your chest the first time you hold hands with someone you're really in to? What about when you make eye contact with someone special and in that instant you know, this one is special. Have you ever felt sooooo connected to someone that you could sense what they were feeling just by looking at them? Have you ever woken up only to find you had spent the entire night snuggled up to someone, and thought to yourself "this is the one"? Have you ever been sooooo in love with someone that you couldn't concentrate on anything at work and you just counted the seconds until quitting time so you could rush home? Has somebody meant soooooo much to you that you spent time everyday to think of romantic ways to show them? i.e. love letters left on her pillow, notes on her screen saver, balloon-a-grams sent to her work, even just warming her car up on a cold morning. Well, I have felt thses things and I miss it. Ultimately I am just looking for someone that can spark these emotions in me once again. If I find her GREAT, but I'm OK if I don't. Someone would have to be extremely special to evoke these feelings in me so just count on being my friend first.

I am the custodial parent of my 13 year old daughter. For fun I enjoy listening to jazz, camping, hiking, horseback riding, riding my motorcycle or just putting the top down on the convertible and taking a drive. I enjoy pretty much anything in which I can include my daughter.

I am sooooo a city boy but don't let that fool you. I love being in the country. My psychological healing comes from the time I spend in "the great outdoors". Camping, hiking, canoeing. I am drawn to the country at this stage in my life and I feel myself becoming more aware of my ecological responsibilities everyday, though I don't think I would be considered a "Tree Hugger" just yet.

I will appologize now for the pics which include my ex. I have no idea how to crop her out of the pictures and these are the only photos I have of myself. If you are good with photo editing software contact me.

Some of my core beliefs are:
1. Honesty, if you live your life the correct way you never need to be dishonest. 2. A person's children's needs come before ALL other things.
3. It is good to help those who are less fortunate but if they refuse to help themselves then your help is wasted.
4. laughter is a very healing medicine. When you can no longer laugh around a person then it is time to examine possible changes.
5. Everyone has at least one characteristic that can improve who you are so give them a chance. #5 was paraphrased from some prose I read from Dr. J. Robert Oppenheimer when I was 12. I've never forgotten the lesson though.
6. This is one I forgot for awhile but was recently re-introduced to: You can't fix stupid.

Some things you WON'T get from me;
1. Neediness and Clinginess. I am self sufficient. I know who I am, where I come from and where I'm going and I do not need anybody to define who I am. I define who I am so don't expect me to call you 50 times a day looking for your approval. I almost always limit it to 40. lol

2. Dishonesty. I understand human nature better than most and I get that dishonesty is at the core of human nature. I have worked very hard at evolving beyond the average stupid human monkey. If I say it, it is by definition "the truth".

3. Unfaithfullness. At my age I've already sewed my wild oats...more than my share. To me the most lonely feeling in the world is waking up next to somebody you don't feel connected to or care about. Been there. Done that. I demand more from myself.

4. Game playing. As I have already mentioned. I understand human nature better than anybody I've ever met. In fact I've made a great living on that understanding. I know the game. I've played the game. I understand the game better than most. I hate the game. I don't want the game. I won't tolerate the game. I just want to have a special person that will not only make me feel special but one that I can make feel just as special. If you want to play the game you would do well to pass on by because I promise I will out play you...and the last thing I need is another stalker.

5. Creepy Perv behavior. I know that most guys tend to creep women out because they want one thing. That one thing is far too easy to get for some of us. I'm not on here for that. If that is what I wanted, it is so much quicker and easier to pick someone up in a bar. Sex is great but sex with someone you feel connected to is indescribable. If you connect with me then MAYBE we'll cross that bridge eventually.

I try to find humor in all things. Recognize that we all have dorky moments. I will be there to capitalize on your dorky moments with a joke but rest assured that I will capitalize on my own dorky moments even more. In fact probably 90 percent of the time I will be making fun of myself...unless you are a complete dork. If that's the case, all bets are off. ;) I recognize the dorky things that I do occasionally and I'm completely confident enough to laugh at it. I would say that my sense of humor is more than rare. If I'm not making you laugh then there is something wrong with you. :P One of my favorite quotes is "Seriousness is the only refuge for the truly shallow."

Don't be shallow. Contact me now and lets share some laughter over a cup of coffee. Find me on facebook under Trim Tripton.

I find that a coffee shop meeting works well for first dates. It gives me a safe place to assess her mental stability and several other facets of her personality. If the sparks are not there I don't have very much time invested in the meeting. If there is some chemistry we can always extend the date with dinner, a picnic or even window shopping. Can you pass my coffee test?