Ok so I posted pictures and included ones with me in my sweats and no makeup and my hair is pulled back. I am 100% real and thought it was only fair to let you guys know what I look like when I get out of the shower or out of bed in the morning. No surprises here.

A few quick facts. I just turned 44 but feel like I'm 24. I have worked in my industry for over 25 years. Not only am I great at what I do but I love what I do. Life is too short to hate your job. That being said, I am NOT looking for a man to support me. I enjoy being independent and if and when the day comes that I do get married again, I will still want to do what I am doing.

I don't care how much money you make or what kind of car you drive. I care about WHO you are and how you effect the world and people around you. Nobody cares about how many toys or how much money a person has after their gone. And the girls that do care about that stuff are usually too foolish to realize that most of it is probably NOT paid for. But then I feel they get what they deserve since they should not have a relationship with the foundation being set on a mans (aquired possessions). Don't get me wrong, I like nice things, but I have always and will always work hard for what I aquire physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually!

I would rather be in a relationship with a guy that drives a 10 year old car that's paid for than a rediculous Hummer that has payments higher than his mortgage.

And for the record, I have never been into the bar scene. I will actually not go into a bar unless I am with other people. And I am not talking about my girlfriends. That is probably why I don't have many girl friends. (hmmmmm??) I don't think a true lady should be out hunting down men, and the last place in the world they should meet a guy and exchange numbers or (more) EWWWWW! is at a bar. I am not a sports nut but don't mind if you are. I would enjoy watching sports if I understood the game itself. But have never had the opportunity to learn.

I am extremely passionate but equally selective about whom I share that passion with. I have been with a total of 2 men in the past 22 years and I was married to 1 of those men for over 18 of those years and we were together for 2 years prior to our wedding.

I do not take love or relationships lightly and I love hard. I'm the girl who stands by her man as long as he loves me and remains faithful. I have a great capacity for loving and I am a giver. If you are a player or don't know if you really ever want marriage, please keep moving. I want marriage (some day) and for it to be my last relationship. I do NOT want my heart broken ever again.

I love writing poetry when inspiried and I am a romantic at heart. Here's one of my poems just to give you an idea of who I am.

A PROMISE MADE
I know who I am and it is not nor will it ever be defined by others
A woman, confident & comfortable being voluptuous inside & out
I promise to always remember that love is a verb
And know that our love compliments one another
But it does not make us who we are
I will remain passionate about myself, life, and you
Always strong in the faith of our love & life
Exercising my talents & gifts to remain true to myself
With the strength of a leader but the gracefulness
To follow you as head of the house, recognizing
That is is my strength to know my place…not a weakness
Understanding that I command respect because I give it
And by practicing restraint when necessary I keep balance and a sense of propriety
I promise to be a motivator not a manipulator
And to inspire you instead of enabling you
To do my best to be a positive role model to you,
The children, and to the community
I promise to never stop trying to expand your mind or my own
I will acknowledge my fears and yours as well, whether physical,
Mental, emotional, or financial and continually strive & encourage
So that we may conquer them together
I understand the difference between sexuality & sensuality
And will remain proficient at both
As I believe it to be an art form of expressing my love for you
And most of all I promise to never stop surprising you
And in return I ask for the gift of your love, respect, and admiration
Written October 2001


I want very much to find & share my life and love with that ONE person meant for me. Nothing against those of your out there that want casual or physical intimacy without committment I am just NOT the girl for you. Honesty and loyalty are things that I hold very dear and are a huge part of who I am. So if you like what you have read send me a message and we'll go from there.

Coffee at Starbucks or a drink at Olive Garden. Anyplace relaxed, public and quiet enough to have a decent conversation.