Once again I find myself back on this dating site. As I look at the different profiles I find that a lot of the same people are still here. As I ponder the idea of dating and see that, in my own experience, it may be an endless exploration of finding that mate for life. I wonder what stories and situations the people here have been through. I think, “Why are these people still here?” Could it be the same reason I am? Just not found that right person yet. I have dated off this site and others for many years. I have met some wonderful people and that experience has helped me to develop an understanding of my own desires and wants. It has also lead me to a point of selectiveness in the people I do actually meet. And then looking into the person as a whole and paying close attention to the actions of those people. Small details that I would have, in the past, overlooked. Examples of those things would be the way they talk. The tone in their voice. The movements they make. Weather or not they carry themselves with confidence. Their smile. A small thing that symbolizes their true happiness. Their eyes that show the sincerity of their heart. How they tell their own stories about their life. Consistency in those examples. But are these things enough to find that true love. Well of course not. These are just some small examples of things that I look at. I want to find that person with the same honesty and sincerity as my own. The genuine person that has the same qualities I find in myself. Some may not even feel the qualities I posses are qualities at all. They may even find them to be a burden upon their own lives. Some, on the other hand, would embrace those qualities as they are to themselves as they are to me. But what I have found in this seemingly endless search is that we all look for something, that is in us and we all wish to have. That is someone to love and be loved by. In what I have seen and experienced is that it at what we truly want and how we want it is the beginning of our own happiness. And of course our own happiness before we start to look and enable us to invite someone else’s happiness into our lives. Some of you reading this may agree and some may say, “he is full of s#@t”. In any case; “I wish you all the best in your search.”

So, with that being said; and if you are still reading. I will do my best to say some things about me and what I am looking for.

Prospective mate desired to live my life with. It would be filled with the everyday adventures of life with caring hearts and loving souls. To this mate would be my heart and devotion. She would be willing to give time for the relationship to develop and be someone who likes the person that she is inside. She would have to be looking for a man that does not bring her happiness but allows her own happiness to grow with the man she chooses. This woman must be able to function on her own and only want a man to fill the place in her heart that only a man can do. Honesty is a must and she must be able to open her mind to the possibilities and future of life. She would be a person that can look into the future for her desires and not expect them to come overnight. She would also have to know what she wants in a man and not settle for just anyone. If I happen to be that man; great! If not; so it is. I bring with me a caring and compassionate heart that is waiting to explode into the heart of the woman for me. If you are this woman and can see me for the man I am and appreciate the love two people can share then keep reading and I will share with you my place in this world and what I look for in the future when my mate comes along.

I am a loving father of 3 and grandfather to 1. My kids are 22 (Son), 19 (Daughter) and 17 (Son). My Grandson is going on 2. I have been dating online for about 11 years and have met a lot of interesting women but none that have taken that spot that would make her my mate forever. I am “Too Picky” as I have been told but I feel I am just waiting for the right woman. Shortly after my father passed away I moved back home with Mom. I am #5 of 6 kids and the one that did not have the obligations of a family so I moved back in to help her out with things she could not do on her own. I am also the ears at which talks too when she needs it. I call myself her “handyman and yard boy”. So with that in mind I would like to emphasize that I would not be willing to jump into moving out after a short time of dating. I am the rock she needs and I do have room to allow a woman into my heart. I can say that I would be committed to the relationship and as time grew and we got to know one another I would integrate my life into her’s as I would hope she would mine.

I am looking for a woman to just spend time together learning about as I wish she would me. See the qualities that each have to offer the other and enjoy that time. As time passes on and our lives grow towards one another we could explore the ideas of sharing a life and become a complete couple that share the things in life meant for just those two. As for now I would like to offer my friendship and hope that the woman I have describe above reads this and finds it appealing enough to say “HI!”.

I like all types of activities. I like to write poetry (when inspire), write in my novel from time to time (it is SciFi and I hope to finish it by the time I am 70 LOL), cook (inside and out), go camping, work in my woodshop, go to movies, dine out, relax on the couch with a good movie, do remolding and many, many more things. But most importantly I like to do things for the people close to me, which would include my kids, Mom, siblings and friends.


Although I consider myself as having a colorful personality that boarders on the crazy side. I have zero tolerance for psychopathic or hateful personalities. I enjoy life and the world around me. Taking light of many things. I have a serious side and it comes out as need be. Is it too much to ask for the “laid back” I see written here to truly be “laid back”. Someone who looks to smile everyday instead of looking at life as such a challenge. Drama does not need to be a part of life to make it interesting. In my view anyway. We all have our stories of why we are the way we are and the barriers we put up because of past experiences. I like to look at all the things in my life as a guide to what is in store for me next. “My past is not a negative in my life. It is the roadmap to my new journey”.

So if you have read all of this and feel the desire to contact me; please feel free to do so. If not and you want to pass me by; I wish you well in your search.

I guess I should write that I am back surgery on the 10-30-09 so I will not be able to go out on a date until I have recovered enough. Maybe this will give time to exchange messages and see if there is enough in common to “click” and meet in person. Should not take too long.

It would depend on the common interest of each of us. Maybe dinner and a walk along the river. I have even been known to just come over and cook. Lots of options.