I used to have a profile up here that got me endless compliments -- fabulously written, so creative, brilliant, etc ad infinitum. But it apparently wasn't attracting the women I'm often interested in. So I've removed it.

Further, I so often read on women's profiles that they far prefer a nice thorough first email that shows a guy has spent time reading their profile, and speaks to specific things they might have in common. Sounds great, right? Except, you ladies always seem to forget that this ends up being a "numbers game" for the men online. On average, for every 10 emails we send out, we get an average of 1 or 2 responses.

So think about that for a minute. If I do a really proper job of reading through a woman's profile and thinking through what I'd like to say as an opener to her... in order to show interest, but not too much, and point out some of my best qualities in a non-self-centered way... to do that effort real justice takes me a good 20-30 minutes. So under the present scenario, if I'm going to email enough potential new friends or dating prospects to be sure I'll get at least one response... I have to put in about 5 hours of time.

That's absolutely nuts! It's not that I'm too busy to do that, because I do have time to devote to my next someone special, but I'm not that desperate either. I'd rather spend that time with my kids, or going to a bookstore, or a museum, or the gym, or going out to listen to a live band, etc.

So when you say you don't pay much attention to the one-liner emails that say "Hi... love your pictures..." (and I don't blame you, personally)... maybe it's time you recognized that the only men who are going to go through the motions of spending the proper time reading your profile, evaluating it... considering it... and then sending you a thoughtful email... are the guys who (a) have the time to email women for 5 hours in order to have any likelihood of hearing from one of you, and (b) who aren't out spending that time doing something vibrant with their life.

So. I'll end this by proposing that if this is sinking in for any of you lovely ladies reading this profile... I also know that in many cases, you're getting more email than you have time to reply to.

My suggestion is -- since you're getting tons of emails... mostly from guys whom you might very well not want to date anyway (for the reasons I outlined above)... perhaps YOU should be emailing first, more often. That way, guys know who's even marginally interested in them, without having to spend 5 hours on this site trying to find 1 in 10 who might be.

As for me -- I'm both humble and absolutely fascinating (LOL!). A cornucopia of amazing contrasts. Skilled and entertaining in ever so many ways. Whomever catches me is in for an extraordinary ride.

Email me if you'd like to see my original profile. It's kickass. But you've got to ask me for it.

Let's grab some coffee at a bookstore, or a drink. Something where we can walk & talk. But we both need to make sure we schedule calls in advance from our respective friends, so we'll each have a pre-arranged excuse to run for the hills if we can't stand each other's pheromones, etc. (Does anyone actually think those pre-arranged calls are for real? Too funny!).