LONG TERM FRIEND!!!

** AND ANOTHER UPDATE.....DO NOT NOT NOT ASK FOR MY PRIVATE EMAIL OR CHAT ON FIRST, OR EVEN SECOND MESSAGE. ALL SITES SAY BE SAFE DONT GIVE OUR PRIVATE INFO BUT ALL MEN WANT IT IN THE BEGINNING. ALL SITES HAVE MESSAGING CAPABILITIES RIGHT? I MEAN DIDNT YOU "USE" A MESSAGE TO ASK FOR MY PRIVATE EMAIL? AND WASNT I ABLE TO READ IT??? JUST SAY WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY. I CAN READ VERY WELL!! SO I ASK "ALL" MEN?? WOULD THEY LIKE THE TACTICS THAT THEY THEMSELVES APPLY TO WOMEN IF SAME TACTICS APPLIED BY OTEHR MEN TO THEIR DAUGHTER, SISTER, MOTHER, FEMALE COUSIN, ANY FEMALE FRIEND? IF "YOUR" SISTER SAID, THIS GUY WANTED MY PRIVATE EMAIL/IM ON FIRST MESSAGE WHAT YOU "YOU" SAY?? HMMM???? !! AND...tired of being called names for saying no to men that virtually have nothing on their profiles and send 5 words to me.."send me your IM, so we can chat" Rude! Its a dating site. Use it properly! and to add to that rudeness say, I won't get any dates...

for everyone's informaiton...I DATE A LOT...to find my soulmate. Some men have got it figured out. Saying something. Use real words and say real things and dont be rude if we say no! I type fast, and reply to all. You complain about women that just delete. Why do you think they do that? for the same reasons that I DO reply and tell you how not to approach a woman!

***11-22-09 update....dont stop by my profile just to rag me. A man age 61 and say I NEED to date men my age and older. Or that I'm NEW and be patient. This is my second profile. I have been on every site at least few months here and there for about 4 years, seeing one guy for a year, another for 2 years, not serious but still nice companions. I want more, my soulmate but... Though I have made many friends from many sites both for dating and songwriting and of all ages actually, MOST of the men that act condescending, gross, say what they want to stick in my mouth and other ridiculous things like one saying he wanted me to put him in a chastity belt and other stupid things or being married and they are here because no credit card needed ARE my age and older!!! I get more respect from younger men!!! Older men want free h o o k e r s!!! I have met nice older men but they ACT and LOOK younger and not 100 pounds overweight or looking like Santa Claus? Just because I dont want the ridiculous old nitwits contacting me doesnt mean I have not dated? so you dont need to send me nasty messages saying "good luck to me" and then blocking me so I can't reply? rude, immature? and again that was the 61 year old?!!! and he says date men my age and older um yah...good example!!!

***update! okay, now since I got your attention with the picture I need to make one thing clear. Im still who I am. Also not wasting my cell phone minutes getting to know you. You should have enough in your profile to give some idea of matching each other. Dont message me and say tell me all about yourself. I have plenty in my profile for you to know if possible match.

I EXPECT the coffee meeting to be within a few days. Because if you can't manage that then you aren't going to be dating me in a way that could possibly at all have you figuring out if we are long term or not.

MY ALL TIME FAVORITE FIRST MESSAGE...
"I WOULD DATE YOU IF I WASN'T BUSY"

SOME MEN ARE NOW CONTACTING ME SAYING I DON'T NEED THE NEW PICTURE OF RED OUTFIT, HMMM, BUT THEY NEVER CONTACTED ME BEFORE I ADDED IT??????

I have moved this past summer, 2009, from Irvine to Santa Ana close to the new art villages. People underestimate this city which has many interesting things to do and see in the redeveloping downtown area that is blending the old with new and keep the many years of historic culture.

My current hobby is songwriting but I have interests in other areas of writing. I also got back out all my old high school art. I may be inspired to try that again and other creative things I used to do.

I got my old bike back out. I was never a good bike rider, nervous, but trying it again. I also like to walk and explore cities and nature on foot.

I don't want to endlessly talk on line. I want to meet a real LIVE SINGLE person!

But in saying that I have to also be attracted to you and feel we have common interests. I usually get along with men about 10 years younger. I really don't prefer men older than me UNLESS you act younger. This also doesnt mean age 22 !!! I want to meet someone compatible and who can hold an intelligent conversation

The typical coffee first or similar to see if we even feel we are a match to continue on. I like something with atmosphere, whether music or the elusive walk on the beach (which some think silly but I've yet to have that offer for real?) where we can continue to get to know one another and have fun too. This process is hard and while not finding our exact match see nothing wrong in gaining a new friend.