There comes a time in our lives when we become aware of the mistakes we've made in our love lives. When we realize we haven't made that special someone we had the priority they should have been. When we learn our focus isn't what we thought it was. It's when we are tired of waking up alone, of laughing alone, of being alone. That's when we know we're ready for something special. I'm looking for a good woman. Actualy, I'm looking for a wonderful girlfriend who would like to have a great boyfriend! I have hope that there are a few Ladies of that caliber out there in the greater Ventura area!

I would really prefer this to not be the way I meet a Lady but, when I think about it, the internet is like the world's largest singles' bar- without the alcohol! It's kind of nice to meet someone, talk to them awhile, and get to know who they are without ever having to have actually face them. It gives us a chance to get a feel for someone before we have to meet up. Any of you ladies who have ever been on a blind date probably know what I'm talking about! It does give the dishonest among us an opportunity to play games, but it also allows those who are serious to find people we might never have run into otherwise. I think that's nice, so I embrace it.

I thought to myself: I don't have a clue where to go with the intent of meeting people. Bars, for me, are typically too loud to hold a decent conversation, and meeting someone that has already been drinking doesn't give you much in the way of a good representation of who they are. There might be a few decent places to go, but it seems like your best bet is to be out in the world and meet someone at random... or post on some dating/personals site!

My biggest problem when it comes to meeting women is that my flirt radar is broken. I honestly cannot tell when a woman is interesed in me. This makes meeting women out in the world difficult to say the least. Every time a woman has ever flirted with me, I was oblivious to it! I only found out because she chose to tell me long after the fact. And every time I have ever thought a woman was flirting with me, and I acted on it, I have been wrong. Do you know what that does to a man? Argh!!

When I first started doing this, I went to Craigslist and checked out the Ladies who post there. I took a peek every few days to see if there are any quality Ladies looking for a decent man. I've had some luck talking to a few real women, but its more spam than anything else. So, now I'm posting for myself here to see how it all works on the other side of the coin.

I want to meet a good woman. Period. I'm looking for someone special who is genuine, honest and serious about what she's looking for, whatever that may be. Believe me, that can be rare here. I like women who are self expressive, and its a quality that I appreciate. I want a woman in my life who can share her thoughts, her feelings, her needs and her desires with me; as well as her fears, her concerns and her troubles. My psychic twinkle is as broken as my flirt radar, so, as I do care about these things that go on within you, I can only share them with you if you share them with me first!

Age is just a number, and I don't judge a Lady by her birthdate.

I'm afraid one of the things I do have to limit myself to is nonsmokers. I'm sorry, but cigarettes smell and taste bad and kill the air around me. I grew up around it and prefer my adult life to be smoke-free. I also have tried, and failed, to kiss smokers in the past. Kissing is one of my passions and, if I can't enjoy kissing you then we could have no future together. I also cannot be with a woman who is a drug user or serious drinker. Casual, occasional drinking is fine with me, but not a Lady who feels this needs to be apart of her daily life.

I am a native of Ventura County, having been born in Ojai. I am 6 feet and a few hundred hairs tall, I weigh somewhere in the neighborhood of 165, athletic, green eyes and light brown hair. If numbers matter to you, I'm 32 years old.

I have two classic cars that I am doing complete restorations on. This is a hobby (and sometimes an obsession) I enjoy, but I sometimes let myself get too caught up in it to enjoy life and what it has to offer. Could you possibly be so kind to distract me from it at your convenience? For a time I was working two jobs to bring in extra cash for my projects, but I got so tired of not living that I'm trying to change that. I love doing what I'm doing but it was also lonely. I need something, and someone, for me. I love my cars and the work I do to bring them back to life, but it does nothing for my soul like the company of a good woman.

I am mostly housebroken and now only drink out of the toilet in the middle of the night when I can't sleepwalk my way into the kitchen. I also always put the seat back down after handling any business; of course, I also put the lid down too. It looks nicer and, hey, it's only fair that if men have to lift to use, women should have to as well, right? I'm an equal opportunity restroom user here.

I'm something of the quiet simple sort, but I'm not shy. I can be a romantic and have no problem expressing myself to any degree. People in my life usually know where they stand with me if I want them to. I like to think I am honest and a good listener. I've heard that I am gentle, although in what respect I don't know; I'm told this in different circumstances. I think of myself also as sensous and passionate when the atmosphere calls for it. I like animals in general and love kitties!

My interests vary but do center around the 'quiet and simple' hobbies: literature, film, crossword puzzles, scrabble, genealogy, music (usually when it's quiet, except for that occasional urge we all get to crank it up!). I don't really go for crowds or noise so I don't do bars, clubs, etc. I sound like an old man!! Or an old woman!! Oh no! Oh, and I don't do sports. I don't mind playing, but watching bores me. I consider myself to be athletic and enjoy exerting myself physically for exercise and fitness. I love to be healthy and feel the same. I'm looking to expand on that list in the near future. I don't smoke or partake in any of those worthless recreational pharmaceuticals. I feel I don't need any artificial stimulation to enjoy life. I know... So exciting (dripping sarcasm), but that's why I'm here writing this: I would like to change out this mundane routine I've been in and live for myself with someone and see where we can go. I need more than I have in my life right now.

What else? I just competed in the annual Mudrun in June (this is where one of my pictures came from). It's a ten kilometer obstacle course/race held at Camp Pendleton. I signed on to give moral support for a friend that wanted company to go himself, but I really got into it myself and it was a blast! It was challenging but very rewarding. I plan to...

(ok, after completing the upper part and viewing my profile, it appears the bottom was cut off. So, to continue here:)...make it a yearly event.

Anyway, before I bore you to death with the longest profile in history (no boasting or self-esteem issues, I assure you), I'm going to close for now. You have a bit of me to think about. The next move is yours if you care to make it.

If you're not interested, I wish you luck in your search and hope you find what you are looking for.


I can't really say flat out what works on a first date. I think that's applying a general idea to an individual situation. Different things work for different people, so why limit one's self to saying "this is what we would do..." No. I believe in talking with someone and learning their interests, both common and different, then deciding on what we could do to have a good time together. Dating is not one size fits all. Ok, my fingers are officially tired... Did I write all that?