Disclaimer: Everything I've written here serves a purpose. Good or bad, I carefully chose the words I used. I believe there is positive and negative in everyone, but not everyone is meant to be together. My thoughts don't have to be in agreement with your agenda...to each his/her own. The long and short of it; I am seeking friendships in which my only agenda is that I am accepted for who I am...

If you read my reply to your email, but plan on getting back to me on another day; give me a heads up, so I don't assume you're a serial drive-by pen pal.

There is something for everyone, if you can’t handle being told you may not be my type, then you certainly don’t have the confidence I love in a man anyway. Wouldn't you rather I be upfront, rather than ignoring your email?

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Me:

I am a woman who believes in living in the moment, while seeking the positive. I am articulate, intellectual, sexy, silly, and confident. I enjoy new challenges, and my friends find me engaging, interesting, funny, and nice to be around. I balance intelligence with commonsense, risk with reward, failure with success and I work hard to learn something new every day. I adore having fun, however, I'm not looking for a "hit and run", to be someone’s Sociology project, or to fulfill an idle curiosity.

For those who think it's an oxymoron for a voluptuous (size 12) woman to say she takes great pride in her hygiene and appearance; there are many other women to choose from. Men do not dictate my self-worth; I don't send photos showing my ass...ets, as I have nothing to prove. I am not at a loss for dates, so if I am not your type, don't send an email just to tell me that. If you don’t like what you see or read, it’s very easy just to move on.

• For the record, I exclusively date men younger than myself. I prefer very attractive men under 40, and seem to have the most engaging times with men between 25-35. For that reason, my age is altered on the profile to keep it in preferred search engines. My actual age is 52. This is not to say I wouldn't love to be mesmerized by a striking male my own age, but so far, haven't found one on the same page.

You:

You’re sexy (please, understand the term), well groomed, intelligent, self-assured, articulate, educated, and have a wicked sense of humor. You have varied interests, are unattached, active, play nice, and know how to respect others. You must enjoy what only an older woman can offer. I seek men who embrace spontaneity and living in the moment. I am not one for pen pals, so if we click, be prepared to exchange phone numbers.


• A great kisser is the ultimate high for me, so for men who I date; it’s paramount you possess that skill.
• I adore a dazzling smile, dark hair is my preference, and tats are a bonus.
• You also understand the concept of English, spelling and grammar.
• Writing to me from outside my geographic area doesn’t really make sense, unless you're prepared to travel.
• Please note: Having a photo on your profile from the last decade is not considered recent.

Ø If you have ever flaked on a woman; you’re a pathetic loser, so don’t waste my time.

I almost forgot...and sad that I have to add this: Please "be one" with soap and a toothbrush.

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A note to all of you in the armed forces:

Thank you, to each and every person who has fought for my freedom. I stand and salute you, I honor you, and I pray for your safe return. For those families who have lost someone while fighting for what America believes in, I am very sorry. May you all find the strength to heal. God Bless

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Last but not Least, to those who place "Ribbons" on your profiles:

For those of you who think putting a cyber "ribbon" on your profile is supporting anyone with Cancer, you're sadly mistaken. Start with boycotting Starbuck's [who do not donate to charities] or buy one less beverage at a nite club, or one less fast-food meal, and use that $5.00-$10.00 and donate to a worthy charity like Shriner's Children's Hospital, the Red Cross, WEAVE, JDRF, or any organization who does something positive in this world. Change starts with just one person, like me, like you.

I am not as concerned with what I am doing on a date, as I am with the company I keep. If a man truly captures my attention, I am already longing for the second date before the first one is over.