Dating is not my favorite activity and the sooner I can find what I'm looking for and get off this site the better...and make time for the more important things in life!

I checked "dating" mainly because that is a place to start...along with friendship..but ultimately I'm looking for a long term relationship that sustains itself by common values, attraction, friendship and the ability to both share in and enhance each other's happiness. If you are not a basically "happy" or content person...I don't think a new relationship is the answer. No one should have to be responsible for someone else's happiness...even thou loneliness does really feel crappy sometimes.
This is the hard part:I'm kind, funny, playful, smart, educated, healthy, fit, attractive, irreverent, creative, I cut to the chase, casual, direct (in that east coast way), honest, evolved, silly, serious, strong, a little immature(which keeps me young..:), intuitive, generous, independent, artistic, loyal, fair, vulnerable and getting tired of being alone but trying to be ok with it too..I have a full life...own my business - but of course like every other human being on this planet I am motivated to love and be loved. I would never describe myself as superficial but intelligence and attraction are important to me.

R E A L is the way my friends would describe me... I am fun loving but like and need solitary time too. I'm a great communicator and never hold a grudge...and I stay clear of gossip.

I can live without a lot of things but could not be with a man who couldn't make me laugh or doesn't let me in, doesn't like dogs or animals, lacks a work ethic, integrity or doesn't value being healthy and living in a way that enhances who he is. A little baggage is fine - I can handle it! I'd actually be a little concerned if u didn't have any. I just don't want to find out later that you have a #*%# -LOAD more in storage somewhere!

I haven't had a TV for 4 years... I do have a DVD player..but that's it...If I watch my favorite showtime or HBO programs..I am finding them online. I'm not against TV though...I find I am happier without it...especially not watching the news.

I love a great sense of humor and a guy with a healthy brain and great smile, strong sense of who he is, looks good in his levis, not afraid to take a stand for something he feels passionate about, has learned form any negative experiences and takes good care of himself and is just an overall good and decent human being.For both of us to feel completely "ourselves" with each other is the key.
I'm not interested in someone who is still in a relationship but looking for a way out.
I might be a little on the picky side and sort of selective. I am not afraid of being alone just at the point where I would like to have someone in my life. I would rather be single then in a relationship that isn't working. But I"m gettting tired of doing everything on my own.
I am realizing that life is short and I prefer to meet fairly soon rather then email for weeks.. The energy/connection/chemistry in dating is important and it's only possible to really have a sense of that is if you are actually in someone's physical presence. I know this sounds so "seventies" but it's all about the energy! so yea..the old coffee or meet for a glass of wine is a good start. Somtimes I really miss the old fashioned way of meeting someone- Where there was is an attraction first..then you proceeded...(then you realized 3 months later that you have nothing to talk about! lol)..There's no escape...it's never easy!
If you are intelligent, have taken care of yourself and can make me laugh AND and you also love the water and swimming and love animals.... Uh ohhh!!

A simple meeting without a huge time commitment first is probably the best....then if all goes well - the real date could be anything if there is that highly sought after connection/chemistry. My entertainment needs are pretty simple..it's not where you are or what you're doing - its who you're with and how you are feeling.