NOTICE:

Due to the fact that I’m an artist, and we are in the depths of this current depression, I am taking myself off of the dating merry-go-round. I wish you all the very best of luck finding your soul-mates, partners, and best friends. When things turn around, I’ll return.

Until that time, I offer my uber-long profile for your reading pleasure. If you wanna buy me a cup of joe or stand in the soup line with me, drop me a line.

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Hello! My friends call me James, but you can call me James too. I'm simply exploring life and trying my best to stay off the well-worn paths whenever possible. I travel the world when I can, but my own back yard can captivate me like I was 5 again. While exploring the world is nice, exploring Neah Bay, Hurricane Ridge, or Mt. St. Helen's can be just as enticing from time to time.


ABOUT ME:

I'm kind, friendly, and full of laughter-- a comedian even. I LOVE meeting new people, or just hanging out with a friend at a cafe watching the world walk by. I love traveling, sea kayaking, sailing, and art... Mmmmmm, art......

It's strange, I'm sensitive, empathic, cry at movies, like holding hands, snuggling, & kissing, but somehow ended up as a Metal Sculptor-- it seems way too macho for me, but I love it and it seems to love me back. I own my tuxedo, love foreign films, and artsy-fartsy parties, but most of the time have an unshaven filthy face (and mind?), cuts, and burns. [Shrug]

I’m a sincere man of high integrity-- an artist with a very strong work ethic. I love working with my hands; if I won $10 million tomorrow, I would keep doing what I do, albeit, with a larger studio and a couple of well-paid studio assistants. My work allows me time off as needed, and while I may work long hours while on a project, I am far from a workaholic and have no qualms about taking off weeks (or a month) for travel or other worthy endeavors.

When I’m not slaving away in my studio, I fancy myself a gardener. I keep extending my garden (against my better judgment) and now it’s up to over an acre; Bamboo, ponds, Japanese maples, grasses, stone, pathways to mysterious places and moss are my idea of heaven. I'll use a 3" shovel to a large excavator or Bobcat... whatever it takes.

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My politics: I lean towards the left rather substantially.

My religious views: I believe in following your own spiritual path but don't tell others what THEIR paths should be. Live by example, and if you attract people to you, share your path. I'm a secular humanist with Taoist leanings. I don't hate any gods, or Christians (or any other religion), but I'm very intolerant of religious intolerance towards others.

Relationship / Sexual Views: I would very much love to find a partner to spend the rest of my life with... someone to grow old with, someone to support in all their endeavors, someone with whom I can explore life.

I absolutely love being in love and being in a relationship. My last relationship (14 years) happened to be open (non-monogamous) and while it worked very well for us, I'm open to a monogamous relationship for the right woman. I am very loyal and committed to my friends and a partner if I am so lucky as to find one here.

Food Politics: Yes, I LIKE eating small (and large) defenseless animals! I don't hunt, but I don't mind those that do for food (not trophies) All things in moderation. And no McFastfood!


I PREFER:

• Foreign / Independent Films over Hollywood (But I love Bollywood)

• Sailing over powerboats (a gallon of fuel can get you 10,000 miles)

• Guinness over Bud Light (But truth be told, wine over beer)

• Red wine over white (Excluding Champagne of course)

• Tuaregs over Rednecks (Extra points if you didn’t have to Google ‘Tuareg’)

• Creating over sports (Sports = soap operas for men)

• Honesty over Hypocrisy (This one is harder than it sounds)

• Democracy over Corporatocracy (aka: 1 dollar, 1 vote)

and

•Speaking Parenthetically over Not Speaking Parenthetically (I can't help myself. Really, I can't!)



PET PEEVES:

People on dating sites who use old photos of themselves or glamor shots. (If you don't like how you look, change how you look or how you see yourself.)

Women who email me without even saying what their name is. ("R." or "S." is NOT a name.)

Bad Drivers (if you are one, don't even contact me... no, really, I feel that strongly about bad drivers - go terrorize somebody else.)

People who talk during movies (or put their feet up on the seats in front of them).

People who wear sweats as fashion (this goes doubly for people who obviously never work out).

People who believe stereotypes are usually correct (although I *DO* have Large feet).

When all your photos are obviously self-taken in a bathroom mirror (extra peeve is reserved for when your toilet is seen in the background).



WHO I WOULD LIKE TO MEET:

• Women who are modern, open-minded, & urban

• Confident

• Know that you are sexy and sexual

• Playful

• Generous & Loving

• Be comfortable in a ****tail dress (hilarious-- Fish won't let me write the name of the dress you would wear to a party where drinks are served -- rhymes with "clocktail"!) or in leather on a motorcycle.

• Someone who ENJOYS life.


BE:
-Employed (career wins points over 'job', and independently wealthy trumps both.)
-Non-Smoker (smoking is unhealthy not to mention smokers taste bad while kissing)
-Non-drug user (illegal drugs, silly)
-NO STDs (does this one really need a comment in the parentheses?)


I prefer someone who is on the WEST side of the Puget Sound or the Tacoma area, but won’t rule out Seattle out of hand… I’m a ferry ride from West Seattle.

Right about now, you may be asking yourself, "Holy crap, now there's absolutely nothing left to talk about in person with this freak!" Rest assured, we haven't even scratched the surface... also rest assured that I'm not one of those people who half way through the date, you wish you had a gun so you could shoot yourself (or me) in the head. I've recently been called "infotaining", so there's that.


Wow, FISH has a

Wow... FISH has a LIMIT, they should have told me!

As for first dates. . . I don't have a formula for a first date (or any dates).

I like to play it by ear and come up with an original plan, depending on the person. I know it's vague, but oh well. I prefer to do something where we can talk instead of going to a movie or shouting over music. Exceptions could be a movie that NEEDS discussion afterward or if we take off for a motorcycle ride, either as you as passenger or on your own bike.


Hmmm... I wonder how much POF will let me write HERE in this little box? So where was I? Let's see... not TOO far from Seattle, I talk too much, but have lots left to say... yes, yes, this is true... infotaining, of course...

So, What else can I say? I'm very gregarious and social but also have a very quiet side. I may SEEM as if I'd have 100's of friends, but in reality, I'm incredibly selective on who I'd call a "friend" and have very few, but I'm happy with that.

I also may come across as a joker & carefree. While this may be true on some levels, I take life quite seriously and love hard work nearly as much as hard relaxing. I'm much more spiritual than one may expect, but I keep my meditations mostly to myself.

Many have complained that my profile is too long. F*ck them. You're still reading and that's what's important, isn't it? I consider my profile a sort of filter against the illiterate hordes. I'm not some sort of pretentious "intellectual", I just like friends who have great senses of humor and don't mind a long rant about nothing in particular.

So after all these words, this is what I'm looking for: A woman with whom I can walk though life. Someone who I can encourage in THEIR dreams while they continually pushes me towards mine own. I want to explore life together. A friend to face the good (and bad) that life throws our way; a friend who is happy that they are alive and have someone in their lives who is willing to support them in all that they desire.

I know many women get hung up WAY above about the 'open relationship' thing, but that is actually NOT the primary objective in my life. If you're still reading this far into this record-breaking profile, then you should really email me. I usually don't email many people here because I'm tired of being insulted and analyzed by people who don't agree with my lifestyle choice on this one issue.

Believe it or not, I think I'm a good catch. [shrug] You may not agree, but my god, you're still reading and I've run out of things to say for the moment. Wow. You're my kind of woman!

If I'm not what you're looking for, then I wish you all the luck in the world with your search and peace be with you on your journey.

"Be who you are and say what you feel because those
who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -- Theodor Geisel