I am a Black male with 2 Bi-racial boys.
If you have a problem with that sentence then I wish you luck in your search.


Still here?
Great.

Let me introduce myself.
I am the greatest guy you will ever meet.

That's not ego or being a smart ass, it's just the truth.
I know how to treat a lady.

My name is Rafael
I live in West Knoxville.
I work 40 to 45 hours a week.
My boys are both in Cub Scouts.
And I am the coach of their Flag football team.
So I try to keep busy.

My romantic goal is to find love, get married and live a long glorious life.
Having said that, I am not in any kind of a hurry to walk down that aisle.

I don't play games.
I will always shoot you straight.

Few details... Sure, okay
I am a black male.
I'm proud to be an african american.
I'm not a stereotype.
I'm not a thug, gangster, pimp, dealer or whatever narrow minded things people talk about.
I don't have multiple babies with multiple women.
I had 2 children with someone I was married to. (Oh yeah, I'm divorced... It happens)

I am 6 foot 1 and a HALF, Must never forget the half.
I weigh 231lbs, but I am going to the gym 5 days a week to slim, tone and be all over sexy.

I am happy with how I look but I'm not proud of how I look.
It's not a self esteem issue.
I like me, I'm a great guy. Even my mom agrees.
But I know I can be in better shape for myself and my kids...and for you.
it will make me more energetic, living longer and blah, blah, blah.

I am looking for a passionate, loving, sexy, blah, blah, blah.
(I do like the Blah, Blah, Blah)
I want personality.
the ability to communicate
the ability to have a conversation.
I want to look into your eyes and know you care about me.
Again, let's be honest here.
I'm shallow. We all are... to some degree.
The very 1st thing we have to go off of is how that person looks.
Whether we are attracted or not.

It's attraction that gets us, but it's personality that keeps us.

I'm just as shallow as the next person.
Well, that's not really true.
I feel that it's attraction that gets your attention but it's personality that keep your attention.

I know that not everyone will find me attractive and I'm okay with that.
I'm not looking to attract everyone.
I'm just looking for the one. The one for me. Are you the one?
So, If you aren't attracted to my looks, my race or anything about me, then That's cool. I can dig that.


I've always thought that i was the romantic type.
I like to sit and talk and get to know you.
I'm a one woman guy.
I'm also very affectionate even with friends.
I like to hug, kiss, Hold hands and even (Gasp!) snuggle.

Let me throw something out there.
I am a single parent.
I am raising 2 boys.
I am not a rich man.
I'll admit it.
I'm taking steps to correct this problem but for now, I'm not rich.
I like to go out and have fun but don't expect me to splurge on an expensive place every date.
I'm just being honest.
I'm not cheap but Again, I'm not rich.
If this has turned you off, then I can't apologize for it because that's just how it is.

AND PLEASE NO MORE PSYCHOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Let me tell you some things about me.
-I'm very animated. I can't stay still while I'm talking.
-My brain gets ahead of my mouth and sometimes I sound like an idiot.
-I give a great massage... Well, No one has complained... much
-I'm a listener
-I'm a talker
-I am a funny person. Well, My mom thinks so.
-My mom also thinks I'm cool and that you would be lucky to have me.
-I'm tired of the games men and women play. For god sakes, Just say what is on your mind.
-I'm neat by nature, but I have kids so there is a mess somewhere.
-I love women. They are so beautiful.
-I'm a Taurus. So yes, I am stubborn. Very Stubborn.
-I hate to argue. I would rather debate.
-But if we do argue then we must have make up sex.
-I like Movies, TV, Video Games, Books, Music... Pretty much anything indoors.
-I like sports, camping, hiking, the park, the lake... Pretty much anything Outdoors.
-I feel like JD from Scrubs. My inner monologue is always going.
-I go commando. You know what I mean.
-I said it before, I like to snuggle, cuddle or whatever you would like to call it.
To me, there is nothing more manly than sitting on the couch with my lady's head resting comfortably in my lap. (C'mon, no dirty thoughts) or wrapping my arms around you and holding you gently yet securely.

You:
-I dunno... You like to have fun.
-Passionate.
-You don't censor yourself around me.
-Non Smoker.
-Sown your wild oats. That's right... ready to settle down.
-You have to like yourself.
-You have to wanna stay in at night.
-you have to wanna go out and do stuff.
-love to communicate.
-Not into game playing. For god sakes, Just say what's on your mind.
-Talking in person is great, talking on phone is distant 2nd.
-great hugger... Which leads to ...
-great kisser.

Well, I also want someone to be able to say "NO" to me.
I don't want a "YES" woman.
I want a partner.

I know it sounds weird to hear that from a guy, but there it is.