my sister suggested this. i'm not sure that i'm looking for anything at all, really...but i guess if i happen to find something, then so be it. i hate filling these things out, but the little box popped up, yelling at me that my description wasn't long enough. i figure if you want to know, it'll come up in conversation. i will say this, though: if you're the kind of guy who gets mad if he doesn't get laid on the first date...keep looking. oh...i should probably mention that The Longest Divorce in the History of Ever isn't quite final yet, but i'm more than just separated. to me just "separated" implies there's a chance for reconciliation. there's nothing that even resembles one here.

i'd rather hear a thousand vicious truths than one exquisite lie...


one more thing...it's come to my attention that i should add this: if you're into some bizarre ego-stroking head games...please. i don't have the time or the patience for that. so save us both the trouble & either be honest about it or move along. thanks!


one more thing, part the second...i'm going to try to say this in the most diplomatic way possible. since i've read plenty of you guys talk at length about the irony of women who post what amounts to soft porn almost, then go on about how they want respect and/or don't come to them for sex, i feel i'm well within my rights to touch on this subject here.

guys...it's all peachy that you think you're Father of the Year material & you're proud of your precious little angels...but don't use your kids as some sort of badge or banner or selling point. you very well may BE the greatest dad since heathcliff huxtable, which would be awesome for your children, but don't make it so obvious that you think so. it's one thing to be proud of your children & to make it clear that you have them, lest there be some horrible misunderstanding later on, and something else entirely to just try to use it to blow smoke up someone's ass. if you're an involved parent, that's GREAT. but it's going to take more than a blurb on an internet dating site to prove it. and i realize that it's not just men that do this, but since i don't make a habit of checking out other chick's profiles, you're stuck with my soap box.

i see guys that make such statements on their profiles & can't help but think of how my can't-be-soon-enough-ex will go on, ad nauseum, about how much he cares & what a great, active parent he is, who spends as much time as he can with his kids, but does things like...ohhhhh, i don't know...move 5 hours away without even telling them he was moving, much less tell them goodbye, then comes to town to "tie up loose ends" 3 weeks later, after no contact with them during that time, and doesn't even bother to say hi, or even mention he was in town & it was only known that he was because he was spotted. y'know...silly little things like that.

honestly...and i know at this point it may not seem like it...i'm not bitter about it. just realistic. and people (men & women, alike) who brag about what great parents they are & how close they are to their kids, but in all actuality treat their kids like crap is a HUGE pet peeve of mine.

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lastly: if you don't know the difference between edgar allen poe & eddie van halen, please...gtfo my internets. now.