Here we go:
Me: I'm looking for someone to get out with occasionally and have fun. Not that into bars, although live music is great, so is sitting around with friends and laughing and telling lies. Staying in is good too. (Don't get me wrong - I'm not easy!)
I have gone too long without tv to ever go back.
The world is so interesting - I like to go to the farmers market and chat with people, go hiking, camping, or to Montreal for the weekend. I'm adventurous.
I'm slim and I work out a fair bit and am in good shape. I eat well and do yoga. I love to cook, and I'm not bad either...though not very traditional.
I Love Life. It is a fabulous gift. I enjoy it whether I am on my own or with someone. I've had some challenges and have learned from them. I have worked very hard to get where I am, and I am proud of my achievements. I am kind, honest, and independent. I'm outdoorsy and an environmentalist, but not preachy. I still use paper towels and like long drives. I am what I am. I am also warm, outgoing, and affectionate. I am from the east coast, although I've lived all over Canada, so I'm polite. Not stereotyping, I'm just sayin'. And I miss the ocean, although I get to some ocean, any ocean, as often as possible. I'm a beach person.

You. Also love life. If you haven't had any hardship we probably won't 'get' each other. You are fun, like the outdoors, are intelligent, interesting, interested, informed, like new things and new experiences. You are also kind, honest and affectionate. You are sweet, firm, and beautiful in your own way. You may be flawed. Chances are. That's fine, our weaknesses define us. But you greet every day with a smile.

Chemistry? You can't fight the power, it's either there or it isn't.

So, I've been on here for a little while now, have met some great people, but I've noticed something which I was thinking about on the drive to work ths morning. It is how many people have 'independent' on their profile. I do too.
It's a good quality.
Yet, it's a funny aspect of our society today, that we consider the ability to be alone a strength, and marginalize the need for human contact. It is a strength, but I think mostly we pretend that our need is simply a 'want'. As is, we're ok on our own, but just want someone else. In fact, I think we are social animals, and to have another human being put their bare hand on your skin, say 'I love you' and be there when you need them, is in fact a NEED, not a WANT.
Of course, we can go without, but there's a price. You don't notice it as much here in Peterborough (a lovely town) but you could sure see it in Toronto. So many drawn, lonely faces, people whose basic human needs are not being met, and haven't been met in a long time.
The beautiful irony of this need, is that we have no control over its fulfillment. It is ultimatley up to fate to deliver someone to us, who is compatible in our increasingly complex world, where compatibility is composed of so many more elements which must fit together, than has been so in the past.
It's a funny paradox, that we have a genine need, whose not being met causes us harm, and that we cannot, through any act of will or force, meet.
I think there are some things we can do, however.
One is; we can have a good attitude.
The second is; we can make ourselves available. I don't mean in a passive way, even asking someone out is making yourself available to the world to give you what you need (so is saying yes).
Good luck everyone!

You'll find me out in mid-stream, in the current, in the sun ...

Go for a walk or a hike, grab a coffee or a beer, take a crash course in oil painting, or a non-crash course in stunt driving, or go ballroom dancing (bring a sense of humour!). Grocery shopping?