lmao...I don't know what to tell you ladies anymore. Picture the decent looking guy who loves art and poetry, who is brains and brawn, who loves it all but hates it all {I think that's cool enough to say without getting too labeled}, who is an open book yet has armour air tight, who is more informed yet so stupid, &c....

I believe in making the attempt/inititive. I will try to touch base and speak to the person, despite the "cool" game. Like, I threw 'playing' it cool out the window for some years now--that gets me nowhere in life. I'm all about "at the end of the day," ya know...?

I love it when I learn something new or derive a new thought and that day, week, or month a new song, article, 'point to be made', etc...is brought in front of my face or placed in my lap-just makes me feel human and living in tune, or, perhaps, even slightly {just a pinch} ahead of the game ;) Or, even listening/reading a few profiles within this site: I agree and I feel the same as so many of you_my heart goes out to all your requests. I definitely enjoy great conversation. I don't think I can revert back to ignorance, i.e. "hood," even though I sound like the most street person you can imagine. It's just that I'm free in nature and in my mind and there isn't going back to what once was--THE IMAGE!

What I'm looking for in a female is someone who gives me reciprocity. Someone that isn't so much "Live, Laugh, Love!!!," cause I don't necessarily feel life is as such; meaning, we can look eye to eye, we can smell to smell, we can sing to sing [bodies] on the one-on-one, but then raise our head up from the restaurant table, from the coffee shop table, etc...and realize that there is lots going on around us, and She And I Are Making The World Jealous, so we have to be cautious [I honestly believe I was the first one in this world to ever derive that saying about 10 years ago, anyways...]. What I'm looking for in a female is passion.

Someone that doesn't wear a ring on their wedding finger as an everyday thing:granted going out to the club is one thing, I understand, but/and ironically, 'if I liked it I should of put a ring on it' is basically saying that the finger is something sacred to a female, or, I feel that when something as such happens, proposal, you know :| *gulp*, I just wouldn't like her thinking it's just another comfortable ring on her hand.

What I'm looking for in a female is someone to understand that I'm like Ross from Friends_smidge on the geek side_yet I'm also outta' space like Chewbacca with ideas. Also, she can say curse words if she likes, or not, her prerogative-I'm just saying that for the record. I'm not asking for perfection, I'm just asking for decency. Fake is not my fortee', may she not be as such. I would most definitely relish in the fact that when she speaks, SHE'S ON MY SIDE!

I think to finish this segment of what I am looking for in a female is someone that makes themselves-not the neighborhood scene/characters dictate my position in her life, not even the ocean if she so happens to be a hardcore 'dudette', not zen world or astrological world to cut my chances off-what I'm trying to say is I'm not to be pre-judged or pre-labeled. I've made many sacrifices to broaden myself in order to be better for a female, she wouldn't chop me down by not fitting some motif, some ignorance, or some movie/tv scene that has gotten stuck in her head that I can't fulfill.

I'm really not into looks. Online I can actually believe you're beautiful but then you actually turn out to be drop dead gorgeous may have the aversive effect on me. I shoot for the core, and that leaves us with just topical issues to worry about. I'm not laid back_I mean, if you're able to calculate my internal rates [blood/heart/breathing], then it's psychopathically calm in almost any situation [I'm a leader, every moment there is a situation]. But! How I present myself is intense [scares 98% of men off, pre-defensive mechanism--->*takes a bow*], especially when I first meet someone while trying to find each other's core in a short period of time. *shrug* It's a New York thing. My best example is texting_I made a promise not to text in relationships cause I have way way WAY too much personality for 160 characters per text. All in all, I think laid back people cheat quicker, for they never put effort into learning not to and why it is bad, or control themselves. *shrug* I probably just said a fallacy.

After reading all this, good job and drop a line to say something.

On the first date I am kinda a ham, practical, ya know...not so 2009-ish; meaning, I still LIKE to hold the door, ya knowwww, and stuff*. It's not of trend and many don't like actions as such. IDK, I just find it's a...a....it's so much easier to be a person like that. The hardest part for me is the first date-I have my own life and my own goals and ambitions. To find syncretism, even to find understanding while we converse, is tough.
best advice* there comes this moment in time where I would need to meet you [I can't explain it]--think of it as just the height of our emotions. If I don't meet you, then we will have a downfall....That's if we talk a lot.