I am a reasonable drive from DE and areas surrounding Philly, and I love to drive. Just thought I should get that out of the way first.

I like staying in and watching movies with some beer or a bottle of wine, taking a walk after dark, reading and learning new things. I love to not take things too seriously and like to have a laugh, but I also like to talk about deep philosophical issues, and even not-so-deep ones. I believe that intimacy and affection are very important (both mental and physical).

I love to write and make movies. No, I don't make dirty movies (never for distribution anyway, ha). Have been working with friends on a documentary and possibly getting it on air by sometime next year. Have a few unfinished scripts I really need to get back to - any writers out there know what I'm talking about.

I like music, but my taste varies. It really depends on what I'm in the mood for. Usually I prefer Sinatra, The Beatles or old rock to anything modern, but I'm open to pretty much anything except most country.

I like women who don't take themselves too seriously. A sense of humor is definitely important, but with the ability to think and talk as well (you wouldn't think this would be hard to find). The capacity for empathy and affection are important above all.

I'm also a bit sarcastic and can be a bit silly at times, but I know when to take things seriously. I'm looking to date someone who is the same way. Let's talk and see where things go.

Random thoughts:

These are observations from viewing hundreds of profiles on here. I left them here because I think they help to explain what I am looking for and what turns me off of some people. They are meant to be constructive remarks.

-The guys who you get burned by are the ones who can afford it. I get responses, but probably not as many as "shirtless pic in front of mirror" guy, so I try to be at my best when meeting someone because it might be at least a couple of weeks before I get another date (not to mention the fact that I am not a pig). That guy probably gets more emails, so he can dowse himself in Axe body spray and hit the town with a good chance of getting laid and breaking a few hearts. This makes you an easy target in his eyes and leaves the rest of us worried about if we should wait until the tenth date to risk second base.

We all have needs, it's just that some of us don't think a movie and dinner at Arby's is a good excuse to unhook your bra in our mom's Escalade. I feel that a good connection needs to be made, then I do what fits in with the rest of the experience. If that means a kiss at the end of the night, that's great. I'm not against the idea of physical contact on a date - I am an adult after all - but I do care about if you think it's appropriate. That's the difference between them and us, we want sexual contact at some point, but also believe that a date isn't simply an excuse for it.

-I don't believe in not considering the first meeting a date because "it takes the pressure off". If it's not a date, I think it's in danger of becoming "friends only" on the outset. A date has a romantic subtext, which doesn't have to mean physical interaction, but does mean you're building on a mutual attraction and seeing if anything is there. If someone is against physical interaction (meaning anything from a kiss to sex) on the first date, it should be made clear. Anyone worth meeting will understand that you have boundaries. And, if the attraction isn't there but you still want to be friends, that's fine too.

-For anyone who puts "don't contact me if you're just looking for a piece of ass" in your profile, I'm torn about this because I know where you're coming from. I mean, there are a lot of guys out there that don't seem to know the meaning of "dating" or "long term", but it looks like some members put this in as a reaction to some guy (or group of guys) doing this and it sometimes makes me wonder if I'll be looked at suspiciously, even though I am looking for much more than that. I think it sometimes causes the good guys out there to become afraid of being rejected if they make the first move when the time comes. Either way, I am sick of guys who make it harder for the rest of us.

I'm a good guy, but good guys still want physical contact. It doesn't mean that we have to jump you right away, we just rely on your cues to know if it's the right time to move ahead. We also care to know more than your first name before anything happens. Any guy experienced in dating who isn't a jerk takes it as fast (or slow) as you want, so just be clear about any needs you don't want to be subtle about and we will definitely listen.

All that being said, I'm not interested in a "fling" or one night stand. They both give me icky feelings I don't care to experience. I can't stand the idea of sex with someone who the only thing I have in common with is that we both want sex.

For a first date I would want to meet somewhere quiet, like a coffee shop and get a feel for each other. I love the "cuddling on the couch in front of a movie" dates, but that can wait if you need to be more comfortable. If all works out we can go from there. Something to really get to know each other.