UPDATE ! ! ! NOV 18th. I am NOW in BACK in Hampton, VA from Phoenix, AZ! I am trying to keep HOPE ALIVE! Many of you really don't understand what it is I am looking for! TIME! It's that simple! So,I am going to break it down like this. I understand that some of you are single mom's who have to work and take care of family! That's understandable. But If you are so busy that you don't have time to spend getting to know each other then PLEASE do not contact me! I have enough LOVE..I don't need anymore friends with No potential of anything more or the time to invest in what I am looking for! Understand what you are looking for before you respond! And for those of you that are MARRIED. GET DIVORCED BEFORE you try to move on with me! I am not looking for sum ass or booty call! Plenty of other men on here for that! What I want is DEEPER then SEX! Don't get me wrong! I LOVE SEX and being SENSUAL when it comes to that! But, I know you are worth more then that! I want to settle down with a like minded woman with the potential of it leading to MORE! I am retired from all the games involving a lot of women. F.Y.I! Don't waste my time if you have NO clue on how the whole process goes when you are interested in building a foundation with someone FIRST! If you are not emotionally ready or on some rebound stuff then BOUNCE! Plenty of imitation fish meat on here is starting to make me sick from wasting my time! Salmonella aint nothing to play with! Neither am I! So, NO IMITATION meat PLEASE!

I am straight to the point, honest, respectful, laid back, understanding, affectionate, optimistic, easy to talk to, love to cuddle and hold hands, hard working and have morals! I also tend to follow my heart from time to time. Which was what made me move to AZ in the first place but now BACK! I do not smoke or do drugs. I drink maybe 5 drinks a year! I am a people person and not shy! F.Y.I =(I have Bi-racial kids, their 2 mothers are white! 1 is my high school sweetheart and then 2 by my X wife.)(I am HAPPILY DIVORCED since 2001)! No Drama there!

I love music from the 70's to 80's to now. Tears for fears, New Edition, George Michael, Madonna, Maxwell, Sade, Mary J Blidge, Rick James Byatch, Isley Brothers, Evelyn Champagne, Lisa Lisa and Cult Jam, Toni Braxton, En Vouge, Brownstone, Jade, The whispers, Temptations, Gap Band, Mary Jane Girls, The Isley brothers, Tina Turner, Michael Jackson, Ce Ce Peniston, Marvin Gaye, Prince, R-Kelly before he was peeing on people! Right now Goapele, Floetry, Maxwell, Anita Baker, Janet Jackson are getting heavy play around the house!

Straight up! I ain't the one for you if I Keep it too REAL for you! Can you handle the TRUTH! I am Real looking for Real, Really! Today is Real, my time is Real, Really not into playing games with people fronting like they REAL! Cause REAL love and attraction Really exist! I am on some REALLY POSITIVE shh right now in my life! If you can't ride with me then hop off the track! So either APPRECIATE that or bounce! I don't know why some of you wanna play GAMES so much? I know I am not ALL that for REAL! I am not ALOT of things! I could make a list of what ALL I am not, but once you get to know me you will see what all I will and can be! Funny how many of you will look but only a small portion of you even break the ice by responding! PLEASE! I like a women who will at least make the first move by e-mailing me. WHY sit around waiting for things to happen? Go after what you want and stop dreaming for it to happen! Just make it happen! Mariah Carey! That shows me in some ways that you want a man to do all the work! What happened to Partnership, Team work, Couple and Taking a chance? You only live once. Oh..& F.Y.I When I meet someone interesting and I feel a connection? Then I will REMOVE this ad!

You don't even need to worry about that for real! First date? LOL. If we don't talk then there is NO first date! We need to see if we can communicate and converse over the phone and text first! Then decide to meet and just get a feel for each other! I am PICKY! My time is yours if you want it? I have NO TIME to CHASE ANY GROWN WOMEN who can't be mutually interested! If You like someone then you show interest by not making excuses but rather make more plans....together! Actions speak so much louder!

All I ask is this......Please! be in GOOD physical condition and be open minded to trying different things ''like; skiing, Snowboarding, Ice skating, bicycling, Rollerblade, bowling, swimming, water skiing, jet skiing, hiking, playing pool, blowing bubbles, sitting on the beach, basketball, volleyball, spades, taking long walks, traveling and anything else that is not typical by most black men. P.s If You know how to salsa dance, scuba dive, ride horses and motorcycles that is a plus! I would love to learn how to do that! If you wear pants all the time and don't wear skirts or dresses from time to time. PLEASE BOUNCE! I don't want to hear you cant do something because of your weight! so BBW's beware of this! I like thick and athletic women sized between 8-14 with curves! Possibly 16-18 in some cases if the curves are right! and YES there is a difference! Sexxi Thick Legs are a plus if you like to wear skirts? A little x-tra cushion is ALWAYS good on cold nights to snuggle up with! But, if you are not close to H.W.P then we will not work! If you are thick with a few extra pounds then there is GOOD potential! If you have no desire to be physically active partner then I am not for you! If your insecure? We will not work! I am not interested in what YOU have. I am more interested in WHO YOU ARE and What We can build together.

AGE and Ethnicity doesn't matter to me! Being REAL does! Oh! Ask yourself this? What do I have to gain from lieing to you? Versus what I have to GAIN with YOU by being straight up and HONEST! Lieing = Drama later. Honesty = A future sooner!