I'm usually busy with my Job and working on fixing up the house I own. I can be a very laid back person, I like to have fun, I love to laugh, but I also like to keep my priorities in order. I work in Cedar Rapids in the Information Technology field and I Djay on the weekends and work on music at home regularly, I produce music in my spare time and am working on a start up digital record label. I am generally busy guy.

I'm looking for a woman who is willing to try to get me, one that understands I need very real intimacy as much as I need my space. I don't mind spending time with my significant other watching movies, cooking or hitting the clubs, I'm very open to new things whatever is clever as they say. I am looking for the real deal and nothing else I am only getting older.. I don't have time for games or bullsh*t nor will I tolerate either.

I truly need to be taken care of and my ideal woman understands this, I will also always return this favor likely 10fold, I cook dinner all the time, i love handing out massages like candy and generally just rubbing on you, if you need anything I will be there, I will think of you before i do things and my ideal woman will ALWAYS do the same.

My ideal woman also has her own job, life and personal goals, she is also more than willing to make changes to those goals just as I am to accommodate a long term relationship that appears to be worth the time. She also wont throw in the towel becuase we argue a little, I am not a quitter and don't want to be with one, she also has the desire for an active sex life and can handle constant harassment from myself as I have intense needs..

If you are not open sexually don't bother.

If you don't have a libido that never quits you cant handle this.

If you have kids sorry but I have already done that gig and had my heart ripped out, not doing it again. I don't feel like losing another child..

If you are lazy and/or unmotivated don't bother.

If you are a liar you should do us all a favor and play in traffic..

I have specific needs and at this point will not settle for anything else.

Good Luck..

DINNER, DRINKS, DANCING OR W/E YOU LIKE OUT AT THE CLUBS/RESTAURANTS OR AT MY PLACE OR YOURS.

I like to cook, I like to watch movies, I don't mind a walk and I would do just about anything for the hell of it so the options are open for a first date.. The first date needs to be a comfortable situation for both parties IMO, I really don't care what we do or where we go as long as we have a good time even if we don't end up seeing eachother again.