After numerous people asking me why do you need to do online dating? Why is it you are still single and someone hasn't snatched you up yet? Well honestly it seems we get into a routine in our lives and it becomes harder to meet new people.. After a few tries at this online dating stuff, it seems as if all I tend to attract are the game players, liars, drama queens, and or the women that always think the grass is greener on the other side. But I can say being single for the majority of 4 years since my divorce and dating, I learned very well as to what I want and do not want in someone and the relationship I am in. So I chalk it all up to experience.

As you can see from my various pictures/looks, I am your everyday guy(with an edge)... you can dress me up and take me out to a five star restaurant or we can throw on jeans, t-shirt and grab a burger n beer at your local sports/dive bar and watch some football. I am the type of guy you can bring home to mom and your family/friends, yet want that chemistry/passion/fire with someone where we can't wait to get out of there to get home(if we make it home)wink. I want to be able to look across the room at you and we know what each other is thinking without having to say a word !! I want her to be my closest friend and have her feel she can tell me anything and everything. So would you be ok with waking up next to me on a lazy Sunday morning, as we hang out in our sweats make some breakfast and see where the day takes us.....isn't that the best feeling of just being with that special someone?? not caring what you are actually doing but that you are just in their company makes it great.....
if so continue on...
here is a little about me.... honest, real, dependable, giving, caring, spontaneous, adventurous, outgoing, a communicator, and very blunt. I am VERY affectionate, passionate, sexual/sensual. I will want to hold your hand, caress your arms, give you a massage, play with your hair...and most of all KISS you.. if you are turned off by any of this then I am NOT the man for you.. I am confident, but far from****..major difference. I will do ANYTHING for the woman I am in love with !! I love family and friends. I work hard and play even harder. I love being active, working out at the gym, walking/hiking, playing tennis, watching or going to sporting events (football/hockey/baseball), carnivals, movies, boardwalk/beach. I grew up playing baseball and football, so love sports and being active. I am far from a couch potato, unless its Sunday with football on or a rainy day where we can cuddle under a warm blanket, have some hot chocolate and watch movies.

As far as what I need in someone...ABSOLUTE musts are.. someone with a personality, FUN, a communicator, honest, outgoing, AFFECTIONATE, passionate, unselfish, and intelligent. Obviously there has to be attraction n chemistry. Someone that I can't wait to come home too on a Friday night, so we can order in food, jump into some comfy clothes, have a glass of wine, cuddle on the couch while watching a movie as she falls asleep in my arms.... someone to find new places to eat out, someone to take vacations with, go on road trips with, share popcorn with at the movies, bowling, someone to go apple or pumpkin picking with in the fall, someone to make memories with......a guy can dream can't he??? Ultimately I think it boils down to the type of person I am most attracted to is the intelligent girlie girl, who can get dirty at times, doesn't mind hanging with the guys watching football with me and wearing my jersey.. she could attend a bbq with me in her flip flops & basecap on and can throw around the football and play volleyball and jump in the pool with me and not worry about messing her hair or breaking a nail. But yet when need be cleans up well and can look stunning in that little black dress and heels. Also she could easily hold an intelligent conversation and have something on a deeper level, than just looks. Trust me attraction is important, but there has to be more there. Maybe I a nut but is that a tall order??

What I am NOT looking for... the game playing, if you say it do it, show it, to me it is the little things that mean so much more, someone that feels a drink is the only way to have fun, conceited or materialistic snobs... and PLEASE be done with your EX's....this time around I need the total package..tired of dealing with people not over their past and not ready to move on. I won't settle for less and will not be with someone just for the sake of not wanting to be alone.

After being on here a few weeks now the following is some other criteria to put in here so we don't waste each others time...
** Please live in NJ, sorry NY & PA oh and the occasional UTAH/Idaho's.. but not into long distance relationships I need to see my girl and do spontaneous things and don't want to have to plan everything we do because we live 2hrs away. Thanks

To me its more about the company of who you are with, then what you are doing... anything can be fun with the right person...