You mean you can't just build a relationship predicated on looks anymore? You have to actually give something to get something? Makes sense. I'm 38, and the dedicated father of 2 that are with me 1/2 of the time, fairly ambitious, reasonably successful ... and never bored. I enjoy playing and coaching soccer ... working outside and projects, plus me and the kids are now taking piano lessons (with very limited musical ability so far). Biking, running, ... lots of activity and seemingly not enough time ... ever. I used to like to go out a lot ... the more responsible me prefers Mexican and margaritas with friends and then heading home.