| HeresAnInterestingThought :
Does Anything Below Resonate With You? |
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| City |
Toronto Ontario |
| Area |
Canada |
| Ethnicity |
Caucasian |
| Sign |
Libra |
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Height | 5' 9" (175 cm)
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| Age |
47 |
| Gender |
Man |
| Body Type |
Athletic |
| Religion |
Christian - other |
| Hair Color |
Brown |
| Private Images |
Yes | | Chemistry |
N/A | Relationship Needs: N/A |
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| I am Seeking a |
Woman
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Who is Looking
for |
Intimate Encounter |
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| Smoker? |
No |
| Do you drink? |
Socially |
| Marital Status |
Married |
| Profession |
One I Really Enjoy |
| Smarts |
Bachelors degree |
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| Do you want children? |
Prefer Not To Say |
| Do you do drugs? |
No |
| Do you have children? |
Yes |
| Do you have a car? |
Yes |
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| | About Me |
| | So I’ve been doing some reflecting on the profiles I’ve read and my experience around the pond – anything below resonate with you?
Do women actually think that telling you they are sarcastic is something that men would find an attractive quality?
In my very unscientific assessment of women’s POF profiles it appears the number one quality women look for in a man is a sense of humour – is sense of humour the same as wit? And is wit equated with intelligence? Discuss among yourselves…
A close second to sense of humour is an emphasis on long walks – if that’s true, the TTC better reconsider its revenue model on account of the number of people out pounding the pavement.
Do women actually think that ‘bossy’ or ‘demanding’ profiles will attract their ideal mate – “If you’re this….or if you’re that….then don’t contact me!” Wow – now there’s someone I’d like to meet. If someone contacts you that’s not your ideal mate – two words: delete button.
Dates – is it any wonder anyone goes out on any date on account of the POF dynamic. Exceptions accounted for, women get bombarded with emails and can’t keep up. Overwhelmed with the volume of email, they face the daunting challenge of sifting through all of them, including those rife with the Thesbian constructs of ‘Yo’ and ‘Waddup’, and ‘Hit Me Up.’ They have little time to reply and us guys sit and wonder about why we’ve not heard back – we see our email’s been opened and read, not deleted and yet not replied to, and so we wonder, does that mean interest and let me get back to you? Some interest, I’ll think about it? What does it all mean?
Exacerbating the situation is the time it takes for women to use the latest technology to determine which of the five guys in the picture holding beers with sunglasses on and sans shirts is the guy they’re supposed to be all hot and bothered for.
Can someone explain to me the edict: “If you add me to your favorites list and don’t contact me, I’ll block you!” What? Have these women ever heard of the concept of time? The concept that sometimes you jump on POF to surf, see some profiles you’d like to reply to, use the ‘favorites’ feature for that purpose with the intent of returning later to contact the person (the purpose for which it was created), only to be told you’ll be blocked? Now there’s the type of woman I want – bossy, demanding, cold, and unreasonable. Mmm I feel so hot for her – not!
Is it possible to have long-term pleasurable physical intimacy without first experiencing emotional intimacy? Note the reference to ‘long-term’ which discounts the animals-in-heat sessions, which of course can be fun as well. Discuss among yourselves...
The comment most frequently repeated on profiles? “I’m not into head games.” Just curious, but do you think that comment will prevent the game players from pausing before hitting the ‘send’ button? Can you picture it? Some nitwit is typing feverishly away to send you some inane note, reads your comment and decides, ‘wow, that was a close one, I almost sent it to a non-game player.’ Again, I repeat – two words: delete button.
Do women actually think that starting their profiles with the following phrases is the most effective way to communicate that you’re someone of interest…”I’m new to this, so here goes…” or…”I don’t know what to say, and this system keeps telling me I have to write more…” Clearly there’s a huge business opportunity present to write profiles for those bashful women and men who lack the ability to comfortably tell you something about themselves – can you spell Cyrano de Bergerac?
And speaking of telling you about themselves, what about me you wonder? Well, I’m new to this so bear with me…oh, that won’t work? Okay, let me try this: I’m in the same situation as you are. I lack meaningful intimacy in my life and I crave it. That’s why I love kissing so much –it’s intimate, personal, close, and pleasurable. So if your husband has forgotten you exist (as my wife has me); if you’re still interesting and can carry on an engaging conversation; if you haven’t had sex in so long that you’d need an abacus to figure it out; if you HAVE had sex recently but your husband’s idea of sex is three thrusts and snoozing; if you’re divorced or separated and crave some quality time with someone that’s normal, witty, smart, alive and engaging; if you're listed in the Dating section but the only guys asking you out look like they belong in a Stephen King novel; if you’re not into head games (lol, just thought I’d throw that in to make you feel right at home); and if you understand that discretion is of paramount importance I’d love to hear from you so “hit me up” (LOL!)
I’ll add to my profile as I go along, but if you’d like to suggest some additions, I’d love to hear about them.
Cheers!
Edit One: A lot of women are attracted to 'the bad boy'. Let's assess - the bad boy. What does that mean? That women like to be treated badly? Don't think so. They like to be roughed up? Don't think so. So could it mean they're looking for the quality in a guy's character that is complex? Someone that is a good guy but also has a streak in him that is nasty, a little aggressive in a fun and non-hurtful way, a quality of aloofness that says I can take you or leave you - suggesting self confidence and strength? If so, doesn't it just speak to a depth of character that is multi dimensional and by extension interesting and engaging? Doesn't it just suggest that what a woman is really attracted to is confidence? Therefore is confidence the number one attractive quality in a guy? Please - as always, discuss among yourselves.
Edit Two: The profile comment - "I find it uncomfortable to talk about myself" - nonsense. If social conventions teach us one thing, engaging conversation is defined by a depth and quality that can only occur if two people actually care enough about the other person to legitimately ask the other person across the table questions about themselves, which, of course necessitates a meaningful discussion about one's own interests. No discussion about self, no conversation. No conversation = twenty five years of marriage - oops, sorry, couldn't resist. LOL.
Edit Three: Don't you find it odd/frustrtating to chat with someone, seem to get along and then they drop off the radar? No longer replying to any 'hey, how's it going' messages? What part of the human brain triggers the 'do not reply to any more messages and just drift off to other areas of the pond' chemical??? The scientist part of my brain would love to know.
Edit Four: Is it Freudian thing, or is it me? But what's up with all the pictures of dogs in women's profile pics. I mean I love dogs as much as the next person (you know, 'Must Love Dogs' and all that - btw - love that movie) and I guess I can see... |
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...can see including a picture of yourself with your dog if it's a good shot of you (after all, narcisism is part of our psyche (discuss amongst yourselves)) but to include a separate picture of your dog - what's up with that? Are we going to be going out with Spot or Rover tagging along for good measure, maybe feeding him/her a few tasty dog biscuits if he/she leaves us to chat? Is it a sensitivity test - as in must love dogs? Is it a 'must be masculine but sensitive enough to love Spot and maybe let him leg-hump you while you act like everything is totally cool and ignore his leg-grinding the first time we meet'? Is it a 'take the two of us or don't take any of us' scenerio? Is it a Freudian thing? which, makes me wonder, why there aren't as many pictures of pu...er...cats as dogs? Is that sweeping Ziggy under the carpet to keep him quiet? As always, please, discuss among yourselves.
Edit five: Paradox question of the day: Do those who really possess class ever feel compelled to describe themselves as being 'classy'? Isn't part of the criteria of truly possessing class that you don't feel the need to tell people you possess it? Isn't possessing class simply part of what defines who you are?
First Date? Go for a long walk (lol). |
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