I am hoping to meet a man who is self assured and confident.

The man I am looking for:
* makes me grin because he has a quick wit
* makes me laugh out loud because he's willing to make a fool of himself
* holds my hand because it feels natural
* makes me swoon when he kisses my neck
* calms me down just by the sound of his voice
* looks sexy mowing the lawn with his shirt off
* looks even sexier reading a book
* likes my dog (or at least pets)
* has friends who say he is a great guy
* behaves the same in my presence as in my absence

We might be a good match if -

* You like smart, sassy women. I have worked hard to finish my PhD and I want to date a man who is clever, talkative, and not intimidated by an intelligent woman.
* You like to dance, or at least you are willing to try new things. I'm not a perfect dancer, but I do enjoy it, and I'm willing to try new things too
* You are not a cookie-cutter yuppie. I love old houses and neighborhoods, I live near downtown.
* You value helping others. I like to volunteer and believe in social justice.
* You are affectionate and like to laugh. I may be educated, but I also laugh easily and can be silly and sexy.
* You make time for your partner. I have a full life with work, friends, hobbies, but I make time for the man I care about. I do not want to date a man who is obsessed with his job or sports or consumed with his kid's schedule.

I work out 3-4 times a week, running, pilates, dog walking, and dancing. I do not require a man to be perfect, but he should be fit. Confidence is sexy.
Maybe you have dated women before who were a size 2 or had fake boobs or perfect hair or flawless skin, you can keep dating women solely based on their looks, and you will probably keep being disappointed because they are dull or needy or boring in bed.
I go on each date open minded. I live in the present moment and believe I can learn something new from every person I meet.

A first date should be active, not like a job interview. I prefer to be moving around - dancing, walking, even bowling is better than an "interview". I understand the desire to keep it easy, but coffee at Starbucks does not impress a woman. If you think you need a quick, easy date you can "escape" from, then why even go in the first place? Don't ask a woman out unless you are willing to take the time to have a conversation.