My name is Tony.
I live at The Gateway; in downtown Salt Lake City.
My son has been the light of my life for 10 years.
I'm a graduate student. I'm studying project management.
I hope to eventually lead a team of manufacturing engineers.

I'm looking for a woman who...
1) will show up
2) is dependable
3) will communicate what she wants directly and is able to depend on me for it
4) knows loyalty is more than sexual fidelity
5) knows commitment is more than a promise kept until you change your mind
6) will let me Love her forever
7) knows the Love I know
I don't care how much money she makes, what kind of job she has, has not, or used to have.
I don't care how firm her breasts are. Well... maybe i care a little about that.
But I know I can Love anyone!

Want to know what is going on in my head? Keep reading. Don't fall in or you might drown.

This is what I know...
I'm not a King, a Prince, or a God.
Judging myself or anyone else degrades us both.
I like Salt Lake Valley and intend to live here at least 8 more years.
I have made mistakes. If you are over 30 you have made mistakes too.
I don't care about mistakes. I care what people know right now.
Life gets very complicated when people don't say what they mean or do what they say.
I'm attracted to a simple life.

Stars light the sky in a galaxy of emptiness tonight.
I'm happiest when there's no reason for me to be.
With no expectations weighing heavy on my heart
and so much hope that It soon tears me all apart.
With no worldly idea who i am my ego shatters and I am free to Love.

I see only one Love.
It has many names.
Its languages are infinite.
Its accounts are endless
It's not reciprocal.
It's not an emotion.
It never abandons, changes, or fails.

My relationships are intentional.
They will become inconvenient and unfulfilling.
Then my Love will be known because I won't throw those relationships away.
My Love is truly loyal and committed. I am prepared to Love the day i am disappointed. This is what loyalty and commitment mean to me.

To always behold, if not behave, and in so doing never resent.
To request clearly and directly.
To ask questions when my mind is unclear.
To answer clearly and directly when asked.
To never demand or require ANYTHING... and be content.
To put Love before anyone and anything else.

Abandonment and seperation are the problems.
"Moving on" is a popular way of trying to dignify it.
The solution is sacrifice, Loving discipline & tolerance for worldly ideas of imperfection.

A committed relationship is indestructible.
Our minds cannot know why others do what they do. To assume they can degrades us.
Communing with everyone is important. Especially those my mind resists:
Addicts, prisoners, persecutors, prosecutors, the homeless, the overweight, the dirty, the unemployed, the unfaithful, the untruthful, the loud, and the quiet.

This world wants us to be seperate.
The Ego seeks independence. Love finds unity.
Unilateral disconnection from others is not genuine or authentic.
It is fearful. It abuses myself and others. It violates our word.

Our bodies are evidence of our balance of give and take.
Lean bodies have given. Fat bodies have consumed. Strong bodies have done both rapidly!
Anything I consume is a drug that becomes my body and mind.
The drugs that effect me the most are the ones I take in greatest magnitude and frequency.
I nourish my body and give it no more than the energy it needs. My body tells how Loving I am.

My passion is with Love, family, friends, climbing high, and working hard.
I value meditation, playing with kids, physical activity & eating nutritiously.
I am dependent. I cannot sustain myself autonomously.

People are courageous. Love is fearless.
Emotions are felt. Love is known.
Words are told. Love is shown.
Magic is amazing. Love is real.
Passion is the fruit of desire. Love is the fruit of sacrifice.
The domesticated are polite. Love is wild, free, and sincere.
Behavior is promising. Love is committed.
Fear discriminates. Love is indifferent.
This world is ruled by fear. These are of the mind. Love is of our transcendental consciousness and doesn't seek a record of wrongs.
These are not wrong. They simply aren't Love.

We lose jobs, money, homes, cars, freedom, and lives every day. Love is never lost.
When my mind thinks I lost Love... I never had it to begin with.

To be open and sincere about my emotions and intentions.
You are not responsible for my feelings.
My happiness is created with Love manifested through me.

If you know what I know... PLEASE CONTACT ME RIGHT AWAY!

I enjoy listening to: Beth Orton, Fionna Apple, Led Zepplin, The Beatles, Sixpence, Allanis, Jack Johnson, John Mayer, Natalie Merchant, Norah Jones, Chet Baker, and more.

My humility is sincere.
My memory fails me. I listen intently and actively. I’m easily flustered.
My eyesight is blurry and my hearing is muffled.
I'm sometimes dirty; but rarely untidy.
My neuroses include keeping the lid down.
I'm averse to fear.
My wit is dry, self-deprecating, sarcastic, and sardonic.
I'm ashamed of my low tolerance for bullying and the improper use of apostrophes.

I appreciate kindness, intelligence, and physical beauty.
I'm not a child carried by the waves or blown about by the shifting winds of emotion.
I appreciate Love's manifestations... art, sex, food, respect... I don't worship them.
My heart yearns for that which is eternal.
Love will make me whole.
I won't spend my life asking, "What if I had given everything instead of going through the motions?"

FYI: These people don't seem to enjoy being around me for very long:
1) women who don't do what they say they will do
2) women who require or demand something from me
3) women who think they are a Princess or Godess
4) women who require a "better" man than any men they previously had
5) women who do not take care of their body, mind, or spirit
6) women who routinely abuse their word, make assumptions or take things personally

I don't think of the first time I see someone as a date.
I enjoy getting to know someone over tea, wine, food or a physical activity.

You can expect me to:
1) Look like my photos
2) Not plan to see you unless I'm pretty certain I can
3) Not cancel seeing you at the last minute unless it really is an emergency
4) Not have so much drama in my life that emergencies are common
5) Call ASAP and have a sincere, 2-way conversation if I need to cancel
6) Be available by phone immediately prior to meeting in case something comes up
7) Be conservative about physical affection until it is mutual
8) Kindly tell you if I'm interested or not interested in seeing you again.

If you can't afford the same respect... please don't talk to me.