Well to sum it up:
I'm a software developer by day, musician at night. Detail oriented, but adore randomness in the right moments. I've got a huge heart when inspired to love. A cuddler, I thrive on affection; if you don't like that it's not gonna work. Looking for someone silly and spontaneous, affectionate and impulsive, brilliant but unpretentious, unique and unafraid to be themselves. Someone I can be exited to bring home to my parents, but still be aching to get alone, or even just out of public view...


Now details.

I work with computers to pay the bills. It's actually pretty rewarding most of the time. Imagine doing tough crossword puzzles all day long: really frustrating when you can't get something to work, but then you get that sense of accomplishment when it finally falls into place! Though you can never really explain to someone who's outside it just what it is you did today that went well... But if you find smart and geeky just a liiiittle bit endearing, you might enjoy that anyway ;)

I express myself mostly musically, and that's why I ended up with a university degree in music. I don't make use of it often, but it's nice to have the background; I can listen to music with my whole brain without having to focus, left brain pulling it apart while my right brain sits back and just enjoys how it makes me feel.
I have a few different outlets, which keep me well-rounded. I sing in a heavy rock band (a lot of mathcore-ish influence, for anyone who's into rock/metal subgenres), for one. We don't play much, because we're all busy people, but we do some cool stuff when it comes together. But I've also sung for years in a university choir, which helps me keep my voice sweet and hold on to my appreciation for the art. To cap it off, I do acoustic, folky stuff just my voice and my guitar.
I listen to a vast spectrum, but the genres I'm most at home in are indie stuff or heavy stuff. The genres I'm least at home in are country and hip-hop, but I do like some and never dismiss stuff outright!


So why am I here?

Hoping to meet some cool new people. Maybe just for friendship, but with any luck for something more.
It's easy for me to get interested and connect physically. It's more difficult to click emotionally, but it happens readily too... It's almost impossible for me to find someone with whom I click intellectually; their day to day thoughts, dreams, sense of humor, what they ponder when their mind runs away with them. That's made it discouraging to approach people, as all you have to go on is physical attraction, which I feel easily. Without any way to distinguish at first glance in whom I might find that special bit to keep me interested, I find dating frustrating.
So here we are.


What am I looking for?

Well, looking at my life so far, my best relationships have been with girls who seem like the girl next door, sweet and lovely, but had a wild streak they were comfortable to act on whenever the right people are around. I guess that's become my “type”, if there is such a thing.

I need passion to hold my attention. I don't just mean for each other, I mean you need to have interests or pursuits that thrill your heart and mind. Don't have to be the same as mine, just need things that are important to you, reasons you get out of bed in the morning.

I want your brains. Not in, like, a zombie way, in the way where you can make intelligent conversation about whatever topic, and I don't ever feel I have to bend group discussion because you said something that didn't make sense. That has ruined things for me in the past. I want you to teach me things I don't know, I want to be proven wrong about stuff you know more about than me. I need that intellectual stimulation in my life!

I like uniqueness, even weirdness. People who aren't afraid to be themselves, even if some part of that is massively quirky, are much more fascinating than carbon copy cookie cutouts. (don't eat cookies made of carbon copy, btw. Although cookies made of alliteration are delicious.)

Communicate openly and honestly. I'm a firm believer in voicing whatever's on our minds, and believe if people could just say what they feel without telling little lies or holding things back, life would have a lot less conflict. We can work anything out if we just talk about it!

Comfortable with silence. As much as I love communication, I don't want us to feel we have to fill every moment with something, and when we don't it mustn't feel awkward. I won't feel it if you don't!

Lastly, spontaneity and zaniness, in the right dosages, make me feel alive and in love.


What don't I like? (caution: grouchy!)

You get a lot of points with me if you don't have the same bland description talking-points everyone seems to have here. Tell me something unique! "I like music. I love to laugh! I adore my friends." That's not a description of you, that's every person who isn't a loner or a sociopath.
If you're describing yourself for the world, take some pride in what you put; if I see spelling or homophone errors, I'm not going to be interested. Nothing personal, I'm sure you're great, but that's really annoying.
If you focus too much on one thing, like you list motorcycles in your interests, and your description, and have a picture of you on one, and I don't know much about them, I'm probably not going to chat; even though we might otherwise get along great, we can't relate on what you made your main point.

But my biggest thing is this:
I said I like to be intellectually stimulated. Being opinionated is part of that, but not if you're only opinionated for its own sake. I want an interesting back-and-forth about things we think, which means you need basis for your opinions. Nothing bugs me more than when we have differing stances, and I have facts or logic to back mine up, but you don't present any, nor refute any of mine, but still say I'm wrong and you're right. I don't mind being wrong, I love to learn and expand my mind, but you can't hear solid reasoning, not respond to any of it, not present any sound reasoning of your own, and still feel the same! That spawns arguments, too many of which cause relationship death.
So, uh, don't do that and we'll get along fine? :)


Well, that's all.
I always said I wouldn't write much here, as I feel like when one talks about oneself too much it seems pretentious... but it's too late, this is written now so I'll post it.

Anyway, I'm an open book, so if you want to know stuff I didn't cover, feel free to ask. :)

If you liked what you read, or even if you read it all but hated most of it, send me a message! I'd love to hear from you even if you think I'm wrong about it all; it's interesting to hear what people have to say. At the least, I

Just something where we can actually talk or learn more about each other. So nothing too conversation-stifling like a movie or a concert or a loud bar; there'll be plenty of time for that on second dates if we decide those are worth doing. A drink, either alcoholic or non, in a nice comfortable setting, would be perfect, and then we go from there. Over-planning can take some of the fun out of it!